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confused-it was a long time ago
Someone to who I was engaged to at a very young age has contacted me after 40 years. We have been talking a lot for about 2 weeks.... he had brought up feelings that I placed in a box and forgot about. He has told me that it took him 3 years to find me. We are about 2000 miles apart. I really do not know what to think. I have been divorced for almost 5 years and have not even dated. I really do not know what to think or feel. I do not know what to think or feel....
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If you want to keep in touch with this person then you should do that. It can be nice to catch up with old friends. Keep in mind that it's been 40 years and that you are both different people now then you were back then. If you started dating again, it would be a completely different experience. Of course some past feelings might arise but they are no longer valid at this point in both your lives. I would say not to move forward with any kind of relationship other than friendship based on your past experiences. The past is done and gone and trying to rekindle something so long buried is just going to ruin any potential friendship/relationship you may end up having because you will be going into it with expectations. And at this point in your lives it probably won't fulfill that. Just go into this new relationship without any expectations and see what happens. But ask yourself if you want to actually have a relationship with this person, whether that be friendship or something more. Does it matter to you? Or would you just rather leave it as it was so many years ago?