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Saying he wants to marry me so early in the relationship ok?
We have been going out for seven month now. At our last date he said to me "I am going to marry you some day!" We will both about to be 22 soon and this is both of us first real relationship. We are both college students and have no jobs. I want to at least 25 to get married and I have told him too. He ok with it.
I am I scare? Maybe. Is this normal? I do not know. Am I worrying over nothing? I do love him. Am I still confuse about dating? Maybe.
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Seven months into a relationship isn't always too soon. But if you feel uncomfortable with it, just let him know that you like him, you don't plan on going anywhere, but you'd like to take marriage talk a little slower. But I wouldn't worry too much about it.
You also don't have to engage in that talk with him.
This exact same situation happened to me, we met and fell in love and moved in together within 3 months. He talks so frankly about our life together, marriage, kids and general plans. I fell so hard for him and thought everything was perfect until 3 years down the line he breaks up with me because he wants to move away and has realised he doesn't want to take me with him. Because of all the things he always said I thought it was set in stone and believed it all right the way through our relationship becoming complacent. If I'd realised it wasn't certain we'd stayed together I'd have done everything I could to save us. If I had one piece of advice for you, it would be to treat your love like a firefly that could burn out at any moment. Never get complacent, or you'll end up heartbroken - like me x
You are worrying over nothing. He didn't propose to you, he just said that he thinks "someday" he'll marry you. Someday probably means when you're 25. He just wants you to know that he has no intention of going anywhere. If you think it's too soon just let him know you don't feel ready to discuss future plans and right now you just want to date and have fun. If you're scared because you don't want to have a committed relationship and want more time to enjoy your youth and date freely, that's okay too. You can let him know you aren't ready to be in a committed relationship and even discuss the option of casually dating other people.