Asked by shamira on
Long distance relationship troubles
over the summer i was supposed to move in with my bf. things didnt work out. end of oct. he was supposed to come see me. he was sick so didnt. winter break (we're in college) i was supposed to move in. things werent gonna work out in a timely manner. he was supposed to come see me instead. he got sick and didnt come. the visit was rescheduled for spring break this time. its over in 3 days and it hasnt been mentioned. he really does have feelings for me, but him coming never works out, never happens. its depressing. do i keep waiting or what
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I agree with Lyz and Adrian. It seems like a recurring pattern, but, as Lyz suggests, before you decide whether or not to continue with the relationship, I think you will benefit from asking him outright what gives. Keep us posted.
Have you asked him why he keeps flaking out on you. It seems that the moment you plan on moving your relationship forward he freaks out and backs out. If he can't talk to you openly and honestly about what is troubling him you need to decide how long you can handle his indecisiveness.
It seems like a reocurring pattern of excuses for him not to come see you or you not to move in together. It's probably best to take that as a sign that the long distance relationship is not working out. In order for it to work both partners have to put in an equal amount of effort and that's clearly not what's going on here.