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How long does it take a guy to fall in love?
So I'm dating this guy and he tells me that it takes him years to fall in love and be in a deep committed relationship. He says he is not in love with me yet but he is very satisfied with the way the relationship is going and he is not feeling rushed.
Could there be something that I am doing to hurt the process of him falling in love? Some Friends say in past relationships I have been to "needy" or "Clingly" and that is what drove the guy away.
HELP!!!
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If you are happy in the relationship and he is too, what's the issue? Are you upset that you don't think he loves you? It does take a while to have a deep committed relationship but not necessarily years and there's no real formula for a timeframe for it. Love just happens when it happens. If he's definitely saying that he can't love you/commit to you for years that seems kind of odd to me. Then again, I have no idea how long you've been dating him and he might just not want to feel rushed. Just take it slow and see where things go.
So, he says he's happy with you and the relationship and that he doesn't feel rushed? These are all good things? Why are you worried that you are doing something to "hurt" the process? He said that he is satisfied with the relationship. That's a good thing, no a bad thing.
I think you are over analyzing this. Things sound good in your relationship, just keep up what you are doing, minus the freaking out.