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Are there emotional or actual signs that my guy wants to marry me?
We have discussed marriage. He knows I want to be married and he says he won't rule it out. I know I could be so happily married to him and the relationship is steadily progressing. I am just curios whether there are any emotional and/or actual signs that show he is thinking about marriage with me. I don't want to bring it up right now if I am not reading it right.
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Years ago, I had a boy friend who wanted to have me move closer to him and he would pay for the apartment. I told him I would keep my house (which I owned) and furniture. That was the end of the discussion. A prior answer was right, if you have put in 2 years and still no 'ring' you are wasting your time. I told my friend, I mentioned earlier, after 2 years I was looking for a new job and moving on. He begged and pleaded and told me he loved me right up to the night I had sent my things with a mover to SD and I said no, enough is enough and I was right.
In my humble opinion, you have done the providable - why should he buy the cow when the milk is free? Years ago, I had a boy friend who wanted to have me move closer to him and he would pay for the apartment. I told him I would keep my house (which I owned) and furniture. That was the end of the discussion. A prior answer was right, if you have put in 2 years and still no 'ring' you are wasting your time. I told my friend, I mentioned earlier, after 2 years I am looking for a new job and moving on. He begged and pleaded right up to the night I had sent my things with a mover to SD and I said no enough is enough and I was right.
Hi - if he 'knows' you want to be married, and he 'won't rule it out', ask him what would 'prevent' him from marrying in general, and then ask what would prevent him from marrying YOU? And if you've been dating for more than 18 months, and are living together or spending most nights together, IT'S TIME FOR THE ANSWER ON THIS.
The longer men go without being FORCED to make a marriage commitment, the longer they will continue to go. And I know that romantically and in your heart, you really want him to 'choose' this path with you. You want it to be 'his' idea, and you want the big proposal and the ring and all the rest of it. But guys are spoiled and many of them are dogs at heart and a lot of them just WON'T mature enough to ask you unless they get PUSHED - HARD, by the woman they love.
Sometimes a guy has a social network that is keeping him single. Are most of his friends happily married? Or are they out partying most of the time and serial dating or sleeping the field?
A MAN recognizes when he is in love and when it's time to grow up - and A BOY does not. You must also look at your part in this equation. If you are truly READY to be married - why are you choosing a partner that isn't asking?
If you ask the question and don't get a satisfactory answer, you will know it's time to make a change. Back off from this guy. Take a break from him. Let him feel what it's like to miss you, to want you, to not have you totally accessible to him at all times. And DATE OTHER PEOPLE. GET A LIFE. FOCUS ON YOU, NOT ON HIM.
If he's 'the one', he will come around. And if he's not, and doesn't, well, the less time you waste on this guy, the better - because this is time you could be spending with a MAN who will be GLAD to love you fully - PROPOSE - and MARRY you.
When a guy really wants to marry you, he does it (1) without the woman bringing it up and (2) typically within two years of meeting you.
The only sign that a man is going to marry you is when he actually does. I highly recommend finding something else to preoccupy your thoughts with... like maybe find (or continue) your passion in life?
Good luck! :)
Well, here is the thing. You have already discussed marriage and beyond that you just have to watch and see how your relationship progresses. How long have you been dating?
If he knows you are looking for marriage and is still dating you, that is a good sign. But you need to be patient and let the relationship move forward. Unless, you've been dating for over 2 years, then its time to sit him down and let him know that the next step for you two is marriage, is he in it for that or is he out?
I could be wrong, but it seems like its still early in the relationship. So I would encourage you to cool your jets for a while and not to overanalyze the relationship or him.