Asked by Mrs. Patricia Braun on
Did you ever regret somting for a long time, then find out that you were better off?
So, an Ex and I broke up a VERY long time ago (2003), he was my first love and I cried myself to sleep for a very long time. 5 months after we broke up, he was engaged to someone else and married with in a year. Needless to say I was heart broken.
(Fast forward 7 years): Recently I came across his wife's Face book page, I've seen pictures of him now and he is old, fat, bald, and ugly... almost a different person, then when we dated. I've read a few of her wall posts and she has said this about him, how she can't sleep because of his snoring, how he farts a lot and it smells, or she has 4 kids and the house is a mess, because she has no help.
After reading all this and seeing his picture, it feels like I dodged a bullet! I thank god everyday she came along and almost feel like I should send her a thank you card. I also feel silly for being so heart broken and regretting our break up for such a long time.
Anyone else have a similar story?
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Yes, a guy and I broke up a long time ago and I was devastated. I thought he was my "perfect" ideal and I hadn't been able to make it work with him and I thought for sure that meant I wouldn't be able to make it work with anyone else ever. I was upset. But the experience made me change what I looked for in a guy and the next guy I dated was my husband! Recently, the ex friended me on FB and I was relieved that we broke it off. He's single, writing terrible poems, publishing them on his blog and living at home.
Yes! When you're young with your first love it feels like the end of everything when it doesn't work out. When you're old enough to look back you have a "What the hell was I thinking?" moment. I feel like throwing up every time I think about my first love now. He was a disgusting lazy dirty slob and he still is. I actually don't even think I ever really did love him even though we dated for several years. I was just learning how to have a relationship but looking back and now that I've moved on to a better life with a real man, I realize that that relationship was a dysfunctional joke. Although when we broke up I was able to find someone else pretty quickly and my second boyfriend was a decent guy so I never missed my ex or looked back or even thought about him at all.