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Help me understand my husband

I brought up open marriage to my husband, he like the idea of him being with other women, but said he would not want me to be with others. I have purchase a book on open relationships/marriage and read the whole book in two days. I have left the book laying out, thinking he would pick it up and read some of it. He does not seem to want to discuss the issue. I go out a few times a month to dance and have drinks with friends, now he seems to have a problem with this. He never had a problem with me and my friends before they are female and male. He also never wants to go because he not into the club seen or really like some of my friends. So please make me understand what is going on. I think he feel threatened and may have jealousy issues now that I brought up open marriage. I truely love my husband and want to remain with him, I just need more in my life not even being sexual wtih others, and I can't get him to understand that. Please send all the advise you may have, all will be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

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Posted April 23, 2010

My husband and I just opened our marriage and it seems to be working great. There needs to be a lot of trust and honesty for it to work, though. My husband knows I will tell him anything that he asks but that he shouldn't ask if he doesn't want to know. I also have to reassure him that I will always come back to him. So far I have "played" several times while he has not. It does help that I travel for business so I am not around him when I meet a "playmate".

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