Asked by dudesknight on
How to tell if it's a date or just hanging out?
I'm pretty bad at telling if it's a date or not. In a few days me and a friend are going to dinner together. She keeps talking about how excited she is to go with me, we talk about everything (including sex), and she hugs the life out of me whenever we see each other.
The problem is, I don't know if she's into me or if she's just really really friendly. I know I can just ask if it's a date, but I was trying to figure out myself so I could surprise her some flowers if it was a date. Plus it would be extremely awkward to go in for a kiss if it wasn't a date.
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I completely agree with adrian. Use this opportunity to ask her out again. Say something like "I'd love to have another date with you again." And see how she reacts. Also the bill paying is a good tell too.
I am worried that you might be in the "friend zone". Hugging and talking to you about everything seem to indicate that you are. Find out soon, you don't want to get stuck there.
I won't lie, women are hard to read and it's tough to tell. It's possible that she could see you as just a friend, hugging isn't really a tell for girls. It would probably be awkward to ask. Maybe you should hold off on the flowers (although a very sweet gesture that women do love) until the second date when you're more sure. Use the first date as an opportunity to make a second official date by asking her out again afterward. You can even use the word date to be sure and go for the flowers then. Just make sure that you establish that you are interested in her as more than a friend during this first 'unofficial' date. If you offer to pay and she let's you, it's probably a date and you could even send her flowers the next day as a surprise if you want. If she insists on paying her way (assuming she isn't a feminist) then she probably doesn't see it as a date.