Asked by dyshetra proctor on
Do everyones self life slack after marriage?
My husband and I use to have sex 3 of 4 times a day now since we are married seems like it only happens one every two weeks or somtimes longer.
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I think that happens with every couple regardless of whether they get married or not. Things are always more passionate in the beginning but once a couple gets really comfortable it slows down. I've heard one to two times a week is pretty normal for a couple married less than 2 years. If it isn't happening as frequently as you'd like (and expecting it 3 or 4 times a day is unrealistic) you should discuss spicing up your sex life with your husband. Make sure he doesn't have any stress, emotional or health problems and see if he's willing to work up to twice a week with you. But be careful about how you approach the subject with him because you don't want to hurt his ego and if he feels pressure, it'll make it even harder for him.
I used to run marathons, work out 6 days a week and was a collegiate soccer star..........recently, I spend most of my time watching movies, reading books, and eating way too many cannoli's. You know why? Because eventually life just slows down, and things happen which slow us down.
In regards to sex and marriage, it's like anything else. Let's face it, having sex 3 or 4 times a day (congrats to both of you by the way for stellar numbers) is bound to slow down. Also, despite popular belief, it's rarely anyone's fault, and it doesn't have much to do with attraction to each other, it just happens when it happens.
When you're not married being together is like a vacation, and when you get married, it simply isn't. Things change, and priorities change. Things like a mortgage, the economy, utility bills, co-habitation, and life in general is draining. People always have more sex on vacations because it breaks the redundancy.....it changes the pattern.
If you're really concerned about it, discuss it with your husband.....80% of a successful marriage is communication. However, sometimes you also need to accept the fact that things slow down, life catches up, and times change. if you want more sex, try to think of ways to "break the pattern".....you don't need to go to Cabo to be on vacation.
Good luck to you!