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Why is my ex fiance sending me love songs?
We were together 4 years - high school sweethearts, and then went to the same college together - it was a very messy breakup. We've been apart for almost 3 years now with off and on contact - usually "trying to be friends". He lives on the other side of the country now since I moved away after the break up.
The breakup was initiated by me, but after, when I got cold feet about it, he insisted that he never wanted to see me again and that we could never be together again, etc. He also went kind of crazy with a ton of rebound girls, one night stands and a complete character change (sullen quiet artist to partying frat boy president) which is still going on.
During our "off and on" friendship times... talking on the phone.. I'd always had feelings for him and he knew it. He always insisted that we'd never ever be together again, and I agreed it was best. I recently saw him after 2 years. As we parted he said "I love you". But then he again insisted we'd never be together.
I know the true reason is because of his pride. He still calls me anytime he needs to talk and always says that I'm the only one he can talk to.
Anyway, recently he's been sending me love songs - pretending that he just wants to "share good music" with me. But they're getting more and more specific about "giving it another chance" and "love you so much, but I can't" and etc.
My question is.. is he trying to say something that he doesn't know how to say without the songs (because of his pride)? Or is he just messing with me because he can tell that I'm actually starting to truly get over him?
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The true is only you can say: does he play or not... You`ve know this man for a 4 long years and now, you tried to find out the question in blog... I believe in people. They can change. Maybe he wants to resume yours relationship or maybe he just want to drive you crazy.
My friend already broke up with sister of my wife. but still he sends her some poems, kisses and smiles. It`s really hard to spent 5 years with girl you love and give up after brake up. So people resume
I honestly do not know why people are like this... Maybe it's because they like you having the thought and the tingle in the heart all the time. Or maybe they are just simply too cowardly to confess and admit mistakes... nevertheless a term paper shouldn't be written to express and understand... eh... write him a quoted love poem back
mess w/him back!;)
He just wants 2 play with your mind,or after all hs done he havnt got what u 2 shared.So he wants u back but he just cant face da fact that hes da 1 who insisted its over.
Thank you so much for that. That's EXACTLY what I needed to hear!
You're completely right too.. that's exactly how he is... so unstable and manipulative. He'll have a rough patch in his life, and immediately he's calling and whining to me. It has nothing to do with him wanting to truly be with me, it's all about him and his needing to feel like he's something special.
Sounds like he's just messing with you to me. I wouldn't go so far as to assume that his pride is making him do anything. There's no way to know for sure what's going on in that head of his, but you can see by his back and forth behavior that he's jerking you around. Maybe his relationships or other aspects of his life weren't going so great so he was using a boost of attention from you as a means to feel better about himself. Who really knows. It just sounds like you're getting confused and who wouldn't be in your position. If you truly feel you're starting to get over him and it's for the best, you should contact him and tell him to stop sending you these mixed messages about wanting to get back together. That you only want to be friends with him and you're over the whole situation. If he doesn't respect you enough to stop with the mind games, he probably isn't a friend worth having. Either way he seems like someone who would be very unstable in a relationship and I'd think long and hard about that before deciding to try and get back with him if you are even considering it.