recently, i discovered dat am kinda attractd to dis guy.he's my friend or shud i say my best friend,myself n him r good friends. dat is;he is also friends with my best friend. we r in d same faculty n d same society so d three of us get to hang out a lot ,on a platonic basis.well wht happend wz dat one nyt wen i wz feelin down he came around n we got to talkin.in d process of consolin me we sorta kissed n wen i askd him wassup he said he liked me n dat he had felt dat way 4 some time but didnt know hw to say it. i was estatic n we pland to meet up somtym to talk abt it but sinc den he has been actin strangely.he doesnt call n we'v still not talked.am goin outta my mind tryin to second guess him! i just wonder whether he's really into me.

He may be in this relationships to nourish personal issues like being afraid to be the only single guy, keeping his options open, only wanting sex, or maybe he's gay and want's to stay in the closet with you holding the door shut. If it sounds like I speak from experience, I do. Yes, he was frantic to see me if I did not call for a while, then he'd take off for two weeks with his guy friends and not even tell me he'd gone. When I finally gave up on him he was angry, and wondered why. I wondered things too.

if he was into you he would text you back whenever you text him not only when he felt like it. It sounds like you might be setting yourself up to get hurt by this guy, if he was into you would know, there wouldn't be a question.

Im in the same situation.. i just recently started hanging out with this guy for 5months now.. He has a 6 month old daughter and is working two jobs. So i realize he is busy. i do not have any kids but am working two jobs also. we both do not want relationships and i have made it clear to him about it also. well he has too. But we like eachother and enjoy our time together. But he never text me or calls me unless im the one to do it. and its when he wants to text back?? Sometimes he doesnt write me back at all. He is confusing? .. We only stay in at our houses and never really hardly go out at all. I dont know how to read him?

If he like you, you'll know. If he doesn't you'll be 'confused'

I really wouldn't go by what his friends are saying. Perhaps he's confused about whether or not he should show you attention or emotion. Afterall, you said yourself that you made it clear to him you weren't ready for a relationship. And now you don't know if he's interested because he's hesitant to act like he's in a relationship with you? Sounds like he might be getting mixed messages from you. If neither of you truly are ready for a committed relationship, what difference does it make how casual or not he acts around you when you're casually dating. If you honestly want more from the relationship you should be very clear about that because it sounds like you made it clear you didn't want much from this relationship upfront. I wouldn't be surprised if his hesitation is him thinking about what you said and stopping himself from crossing the boundaries that you set up. But if you do want more, have a serious talk about maybe going the next step and getting serious/exclusive.