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Should girls make the first move or should they wait?
I'm a 20-year-old college student and I went on a university sponsored service trip abroad with some students. This one guy and I hit it off but nothing happened on the trip since the nature of the trip wasn't very..."romantic".
Now that we're back at school, should I wait for him to make the first move or should I go for it? I'm traditionally old-fashioned but I'm also getting a bit impatient. He's a shy guy so I can give him that, but we're in that stage of relationship where I feel like he's into me too, but neither of us are sure if the other likes each other.
Thanks for your help!
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Guys should definitely be the first ones to make a move coz 'they are the predators and females are the prey... so as nature intended they must go after their prey. Still at the same time I think any one is legible to make the move so long as they have the courage to do it and if a person believes guys should come to them first that means they won't be honest about their feelings and the boy could be snatched by someone with more confidence. There are lots of useful pieces of advice http://www.videorolls.com/watch/Dating-Advice-Neither-of-us-has-made-the... Hope it helps:)
Girl, if you like the guy, then go for it. Games get you no where :)
No I think if he is interested in you let him make the first move. Guys don't like a women that chases behind them. If he is really interested he will come for you.
I think you should give it a shot. I too was in the same situation and finally stepped up and it worked in my favor :) . The thing is you want to let him know you are interested without seeming desperate or chasing after him. If you are really interested you should at least give love a try. Good luck!
Do not chase us!
We love to feel like we have won a girl over. There is something precious about a girl you won over using "your game" to hook up with. Let him be man enough to make a move.
BUT......
You can be a smart, skillful gal and hunt like a woman. Present yourself and keep putting him in a positions where he has no choice but to make a move.
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Go 4 it baibe,but start by askng him out den pick from there.
i always make the first move 1)guys are too lazy 2)too intimidated 3)usually say the wrong thing anyway so i just save them the trouble
Tell him exactly how you feel. Being that he is shy, he may not tell you until it is too late. Have a get-together with him and see how it will go from there.
I am also old fashioned, and I usually go by the rule of "he's just not that into you" if he doesn't make a move. Just my opinion, but I always feel if the guy is interested, he will make an effort.
If ya feel like he's probably not makin' move because he's shy, then you could drop some serious hints. Trouble is, our kind aren't good at reading even the most obvious clues.
I know it sounds very "high school," but if you have a mutual friend you could clue in and have them let the guy know you're into him, that might go a long way toward emboldening him in your relationship.
Go for it.If he feels the same way, you both win.If you don't try, and he can't make the first move, you both loose.If you try ,and he is not interested, you still win.You will not suffer the pain of waiting, wondering and wishing.Ask him out and be free from not knowing.
Sure why not. Just ask him out casually and see where it goes from there. There's nothing wrong with that. Ask him if we wants to grab a coffee sometime or a bite to eat. If you don't ask you might never know. I've always been the one to ask guys out. I think women are so wrapped up in tradition that they often don't realize men are in some cases more shy than most women. And you even said that he's shy guy, so go for it.