Asked by klandyland on
How to make my realtionship last?
my boyfriend and i got few fights and we have been dating for a few months now. was it too soon to have a fight? I feel like it might have been too soon. He didn't call me for 3 days then he called and when he hung out for and talked things over and he said he had feelings of wanting to break up, but he wanted to talk things over. is it a good sign? I feel like we are good now and I know we are
Well now that I have explained that situation.
The problems we had were
space
he said he wanted to make sure we have our own time and not become one of those couples that always fight which i agree with.
I told him to tell me when he wants to have time to himself, but on thursday was a big misconciption. anyways I want to know ways of how I can make this happeen. Ive been hanging out with my friends more on days hes been working so it gives us our own time.
help?
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It's common for couples to fight once in a while. Every couple does. The fact that you talked things over and he said he wanted to work it out with you is definitely a good sign. It shows he's willing to work on the relationship and has a level of commitment to you. The easy way out is to call it quits when there's a problem, but he likes you enough to try and work it out. By the same token, be aware of relationships that simply can't work out (meaning if you fight all the time for what seems like no reason) but it doesn't sound like this is one of those situations. I think you're doing the right thing giving him space cause he told you he needed it. All couples need time apart to hang with their own friends and do their own things. That's normal. But I'd be concerned if he's thinking you need time apart to avoid fighting. That's not a good sign. Don't over-analyze it. You both need space and you're doing the right thing. But if you find that you're fighting more when your together rather than not or that he wants more and more time apart from you, maybe you're just not a right match for each other.