He rejected me today. I think he's in "love" with a new girl, and I am thrown out on the garbage heap.....

His family thinks he's making the mistake of his life and they are all very sad, as am I.

Adios.

Rosalie

I wonder about a lot of the things that you aren't saying. The things you reacted poorly to and why your ex thought he would be hurting you by staying with you. It kind of seems like you both are relatively new to the dating world, which isn't a bad thing.

Okay, so, there is hope. If you both still care about each other and are willing to work together to learn how to get through the ups and downs of a relationship then there is definitely hope.

I understand job stress. I have a job then will never have a set schedule, and the demands placed upon me can be virtually unrealistic, and at times I will have to work 30, sometimes 60 days straight. Most people that work in my field have a hard time keeping a relationship alive and I've known quite a few people who are on their 3rd marriage because of this field.

You need to find a way to not take that stress home with you. I know its a lot harder than it sounds. I'm lucky because of my point of view...being with my honey is one stress reliever for me!

Most important for you and your ex is to develop stronger communication with each other. Part of a healthy relationship is supporting your other half in times of need, and more often than not that means emotional support. If you need to vent when you get home to leave the office behind then ask him if you can vent to him and that you don't need him to respond or try to give answers, just to listen. Most men don't understand that many women usually just need to be heard and sympathized with instead of needing an actual answer to their problems.

As for the kissing, if you really do care this much about him then why aren't you kissing him? It doesn't matter that you've never kissed before...you can let him know that. Great kissers aren't born, they are made through practice, dedication, and hard work! :-) So when you get him back be sure to practice often! Instead of being concerned with the mechanics of kissing him, let your feelings for him guide you. Kissing at its best is a physical expression of how we feel about the person we love.

Its good that you've sent the email. Now take it a step further and ask him for a face to face talk. Lunch, dinner, a picnic at a park, whatever, so long as the two of you are together and talking. Both of you need to voice all of your concerns about the relationship and about each other. Tell each other how you feel about each other. Talk about what went wrong in the relationship and figure out ways of keeping those things from happening again.

Now, this last bit may throw you off a little, but bear with me. Slow down a little...both of you. I'm not saying that it isn't possible for you both to fall in love with each other in 4 months...from what you say, your connection was unbelievable. That he says he wanted to marry you is great to....but there is no need to rush in. Both of you should take this time exploring each other, getting to know each other better and better, learning all of the good and bad about one another. When you both can not only accept the good and bad about each other, but also understand that you're both strong enough to work through any problems that come up, then you'll be on the road to being ready to marry each other.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes!