Asked by skaygreen on
I found a pair of women sunglasses in my car
really don't any other women ride in my car,but I let my husband borrow my car for about four hours.when he brought it back to me I went to the car wash and that how i found the glasses on the passenger side.i ask some of his nieces had they been in the car on this day they said no.What i'm wondering is should i say something are wait on something else to come up.I know if i bring up about the glasses he is just going to deny it and act like he don't know how they got there.please help.
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i would definately ask
because he would, if he found a mans sunglasses in your car
Socrates is giving you a really great answer. If your husband has never given you any reason to doubt his loyalty to you and your marriage then why start doubting now? Ask him just how Socrates suggests and see what his reactions and replies are. If you come off sounding like you are accusing him of something then he'll be on the defensive even if he hasn't done anything wrong.
If you go into a conversation expecting a certain response, you're likely to get it. Why? For example, in your case, I'd imagine your asking about the glasses will sound like a veiled "You cheating scumbag!" attack, and so your husband will immediately react defensively and "deny it and act like he don't know how they got there". I could devise some sleuthing way to find out where those glasses came from/if you're husband's cheating, but if you did that, you'd be damaging the basis of your relationship- trust- even further. So, instead, how about just coming out and asking, with no pretenses: "I found these in the car. Do you know whose they are?". No need to mention that they're women's glasses- maybe a male friend of his has feminine tastes! If his answer doesn't satisfy you, I'm afraid you have a bigger problem than sunglasses- a lack of trust in your relationship, for whatever reason.