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Should I let him see me this Thanksgiving Week?
I'm out at college and I get a text from him(my ex) saying "hello". And after about two days of talking he asks me if he can see me.He said he "misses" me. I tell him if I feel like it I will let him know. He is still saying bullcrap about being too busy to see me,yet he had time to talk to me on the phone for an hour on a saturday afternoon?
If you were in my situation with a guy who you dumped preemptively(he was doing things that would otherwise be deemed inappropriate or disrespectful) would you see them over your Thanksgiving holiday because they said they "missed" you?
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That's an unanswerable question. I can't possibly decide whether, if I was in your situation, I would see this guy because you haven't once mentioned how you feel towards him. The fact that you haven't, to me, speaks a lot. If you felt strongly about this guy, you wouldn't be concerned with seeing him because he "misses" you, but seeing the ex because YOU miss him.
Sometimes relationships work the second time around, but only when both partners are fully committed to making them work and to dealing with whatever caused the break up. Can you say that about you and your ex?
If you don't intend on getting back together with him, you need to think carefully about the possible consequences of seeing him or not. Do the good outweigh the bad?
So, actually, in that I have found my answer: if I was you, and I was so focused on how my ex felt towards me that I didn't go into how I felt about him, he wouldn't be worth it.