Asked by klh81 on
My husband is not interested in sex anymore??
I've been married for almost 4 years. I have always been the more sexual person. My husband and I finally ended a custody dispute with his ex wife after 5 yrs. (We have full custody still of there child). We had to spend a lot of our savings and it was very hard financially to even buy a loaf of bread or milk. He says he's worried about the house getting back on our feet? My husband seems now to have forgotten about me. I will admit I have gained a little bit of weight but he says it doesn't bother him. I have tried to wear sexy outfits and even talk dirty to him. Whatever I do it seems not to work. All he says is that our marriage doesn't revolve around sex. I'm so sexually frustrated right now... I know he's not cheating because he could loose his career in the military and 12 yrs lost is not in store for him. Please what do I do???
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It sounds to me like he is too worried about money to get horny. The best thing you can do for him is probably anything that makes him worry less. Think like a man trying to romance his wife - do more of the chores, be affectionate, cuddle, say nice things, try to help him relax, watch what he wants to with him, etc.
Also, make sure he's not feeling pushed to have sex. Often if one person is doing the chasing, the other one retreats.
Depending on his personality, you could also try relieving your sexual tension in his presence. This might inspire him! Even if it didn't, if he's willing to cuddle you while you take care of yourself, you may feel better.
We've been married for 2 and a half. I have always been the more sexual person too... Right now our biggest stress is money. I FINALLY got a part time job last week, it's not much, but I can take over a payment and still focus on starting my design business. We almost lost our house for the second time. And our sweet daughter isn't quite on our sleep schedule yet. It's also to the point where neither of us want it at the same time... It's really frustrating. I haven't lost all of the baby weight, but he also says that dosen't bother him. He's not the talking dirty kind, and sexy clothes don't do much either, never really have.... And I'm pretty certain he's not cheating on me. So, all I can do is relate to you! I wish I knew how to get his sex drive back like it was before!