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should i wait for him
me and my boyfriend hve been together for 11 months, lived together for about 5. I have a 3 yr old son and my bf adores him. My son adores bf too. We have had a few little petty arguments lately and he decided to move back into his mams. He said it was because his family are having a few problems, and also that he doesn't want us to get under each others feet.
He sais he would spend all his time with me still but that never happens. He said that he loves me and my son and that he would do anything for me. Even his mam told me that when he is home all he ever talks about is me.
Now he tells me he needs his space. I hardle see him, and our last conversation was that he was angry at me, didn't want to talk to me and needs to be alone so he can figure out what he wants. I dont even know if we are together, i love him very much and dont want to loose him. But he wont tell me where i stand and i just dont know wether to wait around for him or not
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Thats what his mother said, that it is good he i taking a taking a step back so he can get himself sorted, cause she says when he is ready he will take two steps forward. She said to me that he is not afraid of commitment but it still leaves me confused. I am fine with him moving out, but I still believe relationships need to involve us spending time together. I would just be happy to spend a few hours with him every now and again, and because he says he needs his space I still feel I am asking for too much.
I think we can both agree that him moving out means taking a step back in your commitment. What you need to consider is whether you can be happy with this step back. If not, you need to look after yourself and leave a relationship which is not offering you the commitment you desire. If you can be satisfied with not living together, on the other hand, you need to communicate with him what you DO need (i.e. open communication, which he doesn't seem to be providing). If he hears this and does not make a move to let you know what's going on, I'd suggest moving on with your life. When he does figure it out, he knows where to find you.