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What to do so you don't get into the "Friend Zone"?
It seems like every girl I start to like and then ask out likes how we're friends and doesn't want to lose that. I'm just naturally a very friendly person yet have never had a gf and I'm 21...it's always the same problem...that trap of the "friend zone". I want to get to know the person well before jumping into a relationship. So how do you avoid it, still get to be good friends with her, and then get her to be your gf?
Yes, I know I already asked this but realized I didn't check off the boxes at the bottom of the page so I'm asking it again to see if it draws a bigger response.
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The first thing you need to do is to distinguish your friendliness to coworkers/family/friends with your friendliness to females you find attractive. With the latter, you should not only be polite, courteous and friendly, you should endeavor to include an element of flirting- that could be touching her arm gently while you talk, complimenting her or sending her sweet texts, whatever feels natural.
However, I must warn that being in the "friend zone" is not necessarily to do with what you do/don't do- sometimes, the woman in question simply doesn't find you attractive. That could be physically or emotionally, but for whatever reason, she isn't interested in dating you. Assuming you've covered the major bases (i.e. you dress neatly, maintain good personal hygiene and have a decent personality), this cannot be helped. You have to accept that some women will not be attracted to you as more than a friend, just as I'm sure you feel to others.