Asked by EyesOfAnAngel on
I am in love with and sleeping with my ex who is engaged what should I do?
Me and my ex started dating when I was 17 and he was 27 so it was kinda not allowed, but we fell in love. Well him and I broke up because I was still underage at the time, and he got someone new. However, now he is no longer attracted to her physically and says he misses me but does not want to hurt her. Well we recently started hanging out again and now we are fooling around and sleeping together. I know its messed up, but I just got out of an engagement where the guy cheated on me. Now my ex even knowing I am pregnant by this other guy still finds me extremely attractive and is always talking to me and wanting to see me every chance he gets. I know his chick she was a friend but I do not feel I can call her one now because I am doing this behind her back. The problem is I have no idea what I should do since he does not want to hurt her but he is saying he loves me and is sleeping with me. Any suggestions because its driving me crazy?
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Apparently she's got SOMETHING he likes, or he'd have washed his hands of her already. As it is, he's hanging on to her with one arm and wrapping the other around you. Best of both worlds, huh? He's a liar, a loser and a cheat, and that's not good man material. Walk away.
Love how Lyz just lays it out there!!! "He is a liar." She's right in everything she said, though.
Cut the guy loose. You're not any better than the ex who cheated on you, you know. I can never understand why people keep falling for that same line. "I'm not attracted to her, but I don't want to hurt her." So, genius solves the problem by sleeping around behind her back? And that's not going to hurt her, right? Both of you are selfish.
You were in her shoes. Your ex cheated on you. How did it feel? Did you like the idea of someone you loved having been unfaithful to you, and you were on the verge of marrying him? Think about how you felt, and then you should know how she feels.
He is a liar. I know that is hard for you to hear, but if he is saying he loves you and yet is STILL with this other girl, then you can bet he is telling that other girl that he loves her too.
Truth is, he doesn't love you. And I am not sure why you are so willing to believe it when he says he isn't physically attracted to her. If he wasn't interested in her, he wouldn't be with her. He is using both of you and you are playing along with it.
You are vulnerable and you want to be loved, so it makes sense that you would believe it coming from this guy. But love isn't just words and sex, first and foremost, love is respect and that is not something this guy is giving you. And you can think he respects you, but the truth is, the other girl is the girl he calls his girlfriend in public. The other girl is the one who he shows to friends and family as his girlfriend. He is hiding you on the side and that is not respect.