Asked by Ahmisi on
How to identify if he is in an existing relationship, married, engaged?
Signs to identify if a guy might be married, engaged, in an existing relationship, but that might not be honest about it. Could little availability on the weekends be a sign?
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Thanks alot for your comments, gave me alot to think about. Sometimes we need to hear it/read it from someone else. Won't jump into conclusions, treat and trust the same way I like to be treated, I'm pretty liberal or open myself, don't like pressure, suspicion, don't accept control either... I have decided I will keep trusting, unless there is definite proof.
Little availability on the weekend or at night during the week could be a sign...but then again if you don't know what he does for a living or what the demands of his job are then you could be simply reading into things.
In truth, if this is a major concern to you because you have a history of dating men who are cheating on other women but lieing to you about it then you may want to look more closely at why you keep choosing men like this. Is it the places you go to meet men? Are there base similarities that you see in these guys, or, more importantly, things that you are choosing not to see until its too late?
Also, I'm not saying anyone should go into a new relationship blindly trusting their partner, but this level of suspicion kind of makes me wonder if you are the type of person who is suspicious of everything and everyone. For instance, I have a lot of very good, close female friends. I'm friends with a lot of my exes. I've never cheated on anyone nor had any reason to. I have dated women who, for no reason other than that they had an ex who cheated on them (or several exes) with female friends and their exes that they are suspicious of me and my friendships. I'm open and honest about those friendships with my girlfriend and they are in no way disrespectful of our relationship. I don't put any limits on the person I'm dating, nor do I get suspicious of any wrong doings until such time that I have definite proof. Therefore, when limits are put on me, when I'm told I can't talk with my friends, then it pushes me away and out of the relationship. I'm not responsible for the actions of other people, nor will I be made responsible for them. If you jump into your relationships already looking for signs of foul play then you've already begun to doom the relationship.
Other tip offs: Any phone calls or txt messages he gets around you he makes very sure to "hide" the phone from your view, meaning more often then not he is walking away from you before he even answers the phone or he is turning his back to you when he is texting. Once again, these aren't definite signs, as in they aren't 100% sure.