How do you choose?
My BF and I are currently on a break. I haven't spoken to him since it happened ( 2 weeks ago), we have just exchanged a few texts but nothing has been brought up about what happeed.
One of his friends sent me a text last night saying that he called her the other night and wanted to talk about me. I guess he still has strong feelings and thinks we'll get back together. She told him that she agreed with everything I had to say when we had our break talk and that although he lives his life with plans always up in the air because things happen, he needs to realize that I wasn't wrong in wanting to spend more time with him and that making concrete plans with your GF can mean a lot.
In the mean time, since this happaned one of my friends' husbands is hooking me up with his cousin. We were actually paired with one another for their wedding a few weeks back and had a great time. We all hung out last weekend and him and I even hung out one night. I know he likes me a lot and is definitely interested. I am interested too, which is not like me considering I'm on a break with my BF of over a year and should only be thinking of that.
I know the decision is mine and only mine, but now I need to think what my best choice is. I can say that I wasn't 100% happy in my relationship w/ my BF due to many reason, but I do love him and I just don't want to throw in the towel just because. BUT, the new guy and I have been talking quite a bit and he knows the situation and sucks me in with his charm. I don't think my friends husband would have tried for a set-up unless he knew he was a good guy and wasn't just playing me.
I don't know how long this break is going to be and I don't want to lead the new guy on. I waited around for someone in the past and ended up with a more broken heart... so this time I was learning (hence the no communication) and seeing what happens... and voila! I meet someone else. Ugh, so much to think about.
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I decided to go with the new guy... I thought of the positives and negatives of my "boyfriend" and I can't deny that I wasn't happy most of the time... so it's just best to end it on a semi-good note and move on. I do care about the guy and love him to death but in the end... he didn't make me fully happy or show me that he cared when we weren't able to be together. I didn't ask for much, just once a week where it's just us and he couldn't even do that. That's fine, that's just how he is. So time to move to bigger and better things.
Kacie209
I believe that when a person has two people and they feel unsure of whom they should date, it's more to do with yourself. If a person is unsure of a choice in life (be it anything) they will be hard pressed to be confident in any choice that they make. My advice is that you back off a bit and really think about what it is that you want for your own life. What makes you happy, what are you truly looking for and so on. Once you have that and you know for sure, you will suddenly see things in black and white more. You won't find that your heart is drawn to more then one person.
The more you know about yourself and exactly what you want, you will find it's easy to know if a person is right for you. As is, I think your just unsure of your own feelings and no matter who you date, your going to feel unsure if you made the right choice or not. I get the feel your bf is going through the same thing.
Hope this helps,
Micah
