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What do all these mean from my Ex?
I've been with my ex for about 4 years. A week ago, he said he wanted to become to single again and the reason is that he doesnt love me anymore. After the break up, he still text me and he even wanted to meet up. The other day when we were on the phone. I asked if he still think of me and he said yes. Why is he still texting me? Why is he so concern if I met any guys? What do all these mean? I would like to add on that, sometimes he still emphasize that certain things we should avoid doing because we're no longer together. I'm confused.
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He wants the best of both worlds. He needs to choose one. Look, if you want him back, you cannot talk to him on the phone. If he texts you with questions, answer them in one word, so he will know you are moving on. He wants to date you and be single. If you meet up with him, he will get both and he will be able to date other women. Do not fall in to this trap, please. Unless, he wants to commit and act right, don't give him a chance, even if the balls in your court make him suffer. Don't call or see him, if he moves on, then he really didn't want you anyway.
After four years you'd think he was able to commit. This is a tricky situation because maybe he isn't ready for that next step in life possibly marriage have you talked about it when you both were together?? Or maybe he's feeling guilty about something that he did and its killing him to live with the guilt and feels this is his only way out. Have you changed physically, emotionally? There are a lot of explanations to this. If he still texts you and calls you and thinks about you still then maybe he is guilty about something. He still loves you. There is no way you can stop loving somebody just because they feel like it. There is a reason. Perhaps he meet somebody else while you two were together thought it was going to be something told you he doesn't love you to get away, but realized that it isn't what he thought it was going to be and calls you and texts you because he wants to be with you again because he still misses you but knows how much he messed up. Be blunt ask him why do you still call me why does it matter who I meet. Honestly be a bitch about tell him it aint none of his business, eventually he'll crack and let the exact truth all out I can relate went through the same thing these were things I had to ask myself and him. Hope this helped a bit. But if you do get to the point where you can move on forgive and forget do it sticking around is just going to hurt you more and confuse you more then what you are. He probably what you back it also helps if you make him jealous.....sometimes though.