Asked by shay on
should i stay with him? help!
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and more recently we have both been going through a lot ( his moms in jail and I'm technically homeless) so we have been arguing none stop. He finally ended it by saying we argue to much and he can't handle it. But before he hung up he said dat he wanted to hang on to his heart and he called me his future wife. So should I wait till he is ready or move on?
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If you are not happy, I say move on. When he's ready, he'll let you know, but until then take care of yourself and maybe if he does come back, you'll probably be living your life happily with someone new....
he has been through a lot so i think he needs you to just wait till he's ready. it would also be better if you'd help him with his problems maybe not through financial but you can help him by being there for him, you can help him through his emotional problem or somewhat like that..
But, if you're no longer happy with him then just move on.. life haven't ended yet..
He has a lot going on. You may want to be there for him, but it sounds like right now, he's not ready for the demands of a relationship while his mother is in legal trouble.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to move on. He said that stuff about you being his future wife to keep you around. Move on with your life.
You don't mention how old you are but I get the feeling that perhaps you are still fairly young. It sounds like the two of you have a lot going on in your lives. Take this time apart to get your individual lives together. Focus your energy on finding yourself a place to live and doing whatever you need to do to get yourself on stable footing. Hopefully he will find some stability in his life also.
If during the time apart either of you finds someone else, then move on and think of the previous relationship as learning experience. Don't put your life on hold. You're way too young for that. You need to keep moving forward and focusing on your future. Let him do the same. It sounds like all the fighting was too much of a distraction and kept you from doing that. Good luck!
Shay
I can understand why he may feel very stressed out but he is taking the easy way out.
No, I would not wait for him, I would move on if I were you. If you waited and married someone like him, what would happen the moment a real challenge came into your marriage. He would end up running away because things were rough. I'm not blaming him for being stressed out. It sounds like you both argue a lot as you said however he is choosing to end things but at the same time wanted to hang onto his heart and call you his future wife. You don't run from the one you love in a rough time and then expect that when the dust settles, you will come back to that person.
Move on, you don't need the stress of someone who you can't trust who will stand by you through the good and the bad times.