Asked by Tenacity (LaStarr Joy) on
I want him to be my mate and my best friend
I'm in love, seriously, but I don't know how because we have nothing in common, he watches CNN and the discovery channel, I watch The real Housewives and Eastbound and Down. When I watch my shows he fall asleep, I used to wonder did he love? He finally said it, he has been there for me through the rough, he gave me a key right away to his place in the beginning, he is always around me, he hardly ever wants to go home, but we are so different I'm 28 and he's 43. I can listen to him tell his same ole stories, but he does not text me, I want to hear I love you way mare and I just want to be able to laugh with him and he gets why I'm laughing. His sense of humor is totally different than mine. I met his entire family and he's met mine, everyone continues to tell me how great a guy he is and not to let him go but I want someone that I just click with. Yeah I love him, I care for him, but we don't click. You know what I mean? Is it important? I can just sit under him and say nothing to him for hours and I enjoy that but everyone thinks I'm funny except him. I don't even think he likes the way I do my hair, no Beyonce styles he say, just straight and even is how he likes it. BORING! I love looking like a movie star and most guys like it, i dont know why I fell in love with this one.
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My husband and I are total opposites, but love that about each other. We balance each other out. The 20% we have in total common is the 'click' that keeps it together. So, he watches Discovery Chanel and you watch real house wives....it is amazing, and this is true with music or any venue that is participated separately, how media can be the chasm of a relationship. For instance, my DH is a computer geek major, listens to jazz, classic rock, blues and can listen to one radio station, does not read literature-I am an artist, listen to everything and am a radio button pusher (I have 18 channels set and over 100 on Sirius), and avid reader. He gets Dilbert, I get Zits. He talks guy computer jargon, The Simpsons, Family Guy, and Friends and 70s lingo-I talk lingo from younger generations, MySpace/FaceBook, Heroes, and Gilmor Girlish (classic movies, books, tunes from 20's-now, txtng,) My DH falls asleep or gets on the computer if he is not interested.
So no he does not understand me if I say 'OMG! WTF? Can you not give the 411? TY for your POV, but Im not a Crazy Bitc% picking wild flowers. The COD of this conversation is not Gone with the wind or because the thrill is gone, but because Mars just so is not into Venus in this New Moon phase. Can you hear me now?' Which is great when talking to my best friends or my oldest daughter, but for those who do not text or listen to a variety of genres of music, read current literature, and watch old movies then what I just said is lost on them,
So, figure out how much of your differences are media and opposite 'likes' related. Then you can find your compromise by finding the things you both like to a much happier and closer relationship.It can be as simple as I watch commercials and he does not.