taking is slow or uninterested?
I have been seeing this man for a little over a month. He is significantly older than me (13 years) and pretty busy. We talked last Saturday and Sunday and both said we wanted to take things slow due to failed past relationships (jumping into them too quickly; he was engaged). That's perfectly fine with me, but the problem is that we never talk. We Facebook message each other, but it's extremely brief 2 word phrases. When the weekend hits, we might see each other one day. When we do see each other, he acts like he really enjoys my company until I say something nice (he runs a gallery, so I told him if he ever needs help getting a show set up, to let me know) in which he kind of buries his head. He also won't respond if I send him a compliment via one of our Facebook messages. He does lets me keep some toiletries at his house if I ever spend the night (which is rare; we don't have sex either).
I really like this guy and want to get to know him, but it seems impossible and I feel like I'm just getting strung along. Should I talk to him and tell him what I expect with "taking it slow" or something? Or does it seem he really isn't into me at all? Would he really string me along if we didn't want to get hurt anymore?
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I would not give up on him just yet, because it can go either way right now. I'm 28 and my bf is 43, so I understand, I never knew how much he liked me or that we were even in a real relationship. Just keep your cool, date him and see where it goes, do not have too many expectations and keep up with your daily life patterns and your hobbies because this will keep you busy and something may come out of it
Its been a month. Of course you aren't going to be having deep heart to hearts yet. Of course you aren't going to be all schmoopy on FB. Plus, you both said you wanted to go slow. Part of going slow is letting things evolve and not pushing or worrying too much when emotions take longer to develop. If he already lets you keep things at his house after a month, I don't think you are being strung along, but I do think you should talk about what taking it slow means to both of you. I think you both have different interpretations. You are taking his interpretation personally (don't), and who knows how he is taking your interpretation. Touch base, recalibrate how you understand one another then relax. It's only been a month and you two want to go slow. This does not sound like a man leading you on.
