Should I make the move????
ok so i been talking to this guy for almost a year and i meet him not physically yet through his sister that i went to school with. she showed me his myspace and i just became interested. but for 3 months i avoided him but then i decided to just talk to him. Everything has been so good the conversations are good we have a lot of thing in common it like he's almost perfect for me. Problem is we still haven't meet each other we've tried to make plans but some how it always gets messed up. Anyways im really feelin him I have feelings for him I do care about him. And he a real dude I feel like he feels the same way about me to. So now he talking about us getting a place together. I'm almost considering it like I want to be in a relationship I want to be close with somebody again I been hurt for so long Im jus scared that I might be doing this because I been lonely for so long and this is my only way out. so what do i do should i make the move give it more time what. Im so confused. Basically this all goes back to online dating kinda thing i just dont know how to deal wit this situation i just want some opinions cause that will help me alot. thanks
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Let me see if I got this: you haven't physically met him, but you're seriously considering moving in with him?
Come on. I know that you know better. You have to meet him, see if there's some chemistry, get to know him. Make sure that his actions back up all the words that he has said to you.
I think you need to meet this guy and then worry about whether he's relationship material. I know this sounds a little harsh, but you are jumping the gun on a lot of things. Lots of couples I know met online and its worked. Other's have had duds. Same as it is in real life and face-to-face dating. But before you start imagining happily ever after, meet him and take this one step at a time. Don't jump the gun because you feel desperate.
Im not going to lecture you about the many dangers that come with online dating cause i am sure you have heard them before. I will say however that the people you get to know online, 9/10 they dont act the same in real life. Iv met people that i got along with online then in person it was like "what the hell? this dude is weird" I wouldnt jump into moving in when this dude until you at least know if you get along with him in person for a couple of days. Then if you do then progress into something deeper. I wouldnt do it right away. Also i always kept to one saying "If this guy seems so great and awesome, then why is he looking to the internet for a date" girls will track down a guy if he seems datable men dont have it THAT hard. Unless there is something off about him.
Just be careful.
