What to do if you have trust issues in your relationship?
We've been together for a year this month. When we first started dating his cell was ringing night and day by ex g/f that didn't want to let him go. After a while his cell doesn't ring as much or at all. I met him in a night club he likes to hang out in every Saturday night. Since we started dating he hasn't gone to the club. But when he says he would like to go he doesn't want me to go with him. He says he wants to hangout with his friends but some of his friends are females which I've met. Why can't I go and hangout with the girls? I refuse to stay home while he is at a club with other women. I don't trust him being without me b/c women throw themselves at him even in front of me. He doesn't seem to pay them any attention but I'm afraid that if I'm not around what would happen. I don't like the feeling of not trusting him. I want to believe that we can overcome these trust issues and move forward but I don't know how. What should I do?
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I dont know, sounds iffy to me. If girls are going, I'm going. I'm sorry, they all wanna get at him and thats temptation. I dont care if they do not really like him, girls have this way of just wanting to take the attention away from the girlfriend and put it on them. Girls crave attention from your man, rather he falling all over them or not. Now, if he wanna go out with the boys, I would be cool with that. Guys do guy stuff, even if they flirt with unknown chicks at the club, don't get they number, and dont touch them, good for me, its always the one that you think is a friend, really isn't. I surveyed 30 guys who all have friends that girls and 28 of them told me, they have had some kind of attraction for them at some point in their life. And 12 of them admitted to not telling their girlfriends that they have had sex with their "friend" before. And so many men tell me, a guy will lie and continue that lie until he gets caught no matter what, even a lie that you don't care about, if they lied already they gone stick with that lie. My bf is so sweet, but he lied to me once about getting a call from a woman, he said was a bill collector, he never picked up or texted back, but he wouldn't tell me that this girl was calling and the reason I know this because it was me calling and not the friend who he thought it was in his phone. Yes, I'm evil and to this day, he won't admit even after I told him I know it was this girl, but since he don't know how I know, he's not going to admit it. One day, I'll tell him but I don't care cuz he wasn't even trying to cheat w/her, but he didn't wanna tell me. So weird!
I think you need to examine your reasons for not trusting him. Are they founded? If not. You need to work on that yourself. You need to examine why you can't trust him and come to some sort of peace with that.
Has he gone to the club without you? I can understand him wanting to go every once and a while without you, everyone needs their down time. If you fears are foundless you need to really try and understand why you have this lack of trust and deal with that, Jealousy? Insecurity? This isn't his issue, its yours.
Now. on the other hand. If he was going to the club EVER sat night without you and refused to let you come, that would be some cause for concern, but that doesn't sound like the case.
