Asked by spacecowgirledward on
Love to be lost, Love to be had. What to do?
Hello. I fell in love with my first boyfriend and have had several other relationships since we broke up, but haven't loved any of them the same way. I now am in a relationship, that I'm 99.9% sure is the same, but we've found out that we both want entirely different things in our futures. he wants to travel, and doesn't believe in marriage or kids, while I want nothing more than to have kids and get married. I would do anything for that... But anyway.. My first love has been dating the same chick since we split up and we still used to talk on occasion, but not now because I promised my boyfriend I wouldn't.. but..... .I still dream about my first, and miss him every day. He loves the girl he is with now, but I know I could convince him to take me back, but I don't want to hurt the man i'm with now, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to hurt her, either. I know there's no easy answer to all of this.. more venting.. but yeah.. Any advice? i really do love my current boyfriend, and I don't have a clue what to do..
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Haa, this is really a complicated issue but it got answers....I understand how it feels still loving the first Bf but you need to forcus on your current relationship and make it more loving than the first and believe me,, You will see changes, its all about determination and work to make it.. gud luck.
While you may be incompatible with your current partner that has nothing to do with your old boyfriend. You need to deal with your issues with your husband and leave your old boyfriend alone. Its easy to romanticize the person you used to be with, but you two broke up for a reason. He is happy. Leave that alone. You are romaticizing about him because you are having a hard time with your relationship now.
Focus on your relationship with your current BF.