Shoul I stay or go?
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 7 months now and have been living together for 7 months. We are both 21. At the beginning of the relationship things were going fine until he found out I was talking to my ex. I wasn't cheating on him he just didn't like the fact I remained friends with him. From there on he thought I was cheating on him. Everything I would do would seem suspicious to him. If I went out to eat with my friends he would get mad and assume I was doing something else. He always wanted to know were i was. Once I went to a church group and he went looking for me to see if I was telling the truth. He thought I was at another church so he called me all mad cursing at me to ask were the hell I was at. I told him I was at church and he said I was lieing so I went to his house (when we still didnt live together) and he pushed me and told me to get the hell out of there he grabbed me to the point were a had his hand prints brused to me arms. This was only one of the examples of the times he hurt me. He had no trust in me so he said the only way to trust me would be if I moved in with him. So I did. My parents werent ok with it because they would hear how I would beg him over the phone to not break up with me and how much I would cry every night. Now that we live together its worse. He still doubts me. He wants to know what Im always doing, he hates when ever I go to my parents because they dont like him, he hates it when I go to my friends. He doesnt want to go out at all. We are always home. I still cry alot. I love him but Im not happy but its hard just to leave just like that. What should I do? I miss my old life when I was single and I was actually happy everyday. I bet there's people that can relate to this please give me advise.
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I would not say he is controlling and abusive, but parents are usually right, especially moms. You are only 21 and he is only 21, he will never learn to appreciate you if you stay, relationships get worse not better, so if he is not treating like a queen now, unless he has an epiphany he is going to treat you like a slave in the future/ please believe and if you choose to stay; do not allow him to interrupt your life with your girlfriends, talk to him only when calm and ration on both sides, if not walk away from him and read a book. Keep a great attitude and do not be mad at him, he will soon see that its him and not you (if) he is going to help at a successful relationship.
This man is definitely controlling, and abusive. Many people think that it's not abuse if they don't hit you, but it's not okay. Leave him.
All you can do is, "to leave just like that." It's hard, but life is too short to live it unhappy. You're also only 21, there are many GOOD fish in the sea.
What you described is textbook for domestic violence, and the best thing to do is to run for the hills, you're 21 years old, trust me, there are more people out there. You can read and research domestic violence online, and see that there is a "circle" of violence, and you're a textbook case. The acts of violence will only get worse. It starts with a push and a shove, then grabbing, control issues, mental/psychological/verbal abuse, and will lead to slapping, hitting, punching, and the list goes on. I work in this field and I know it when I see it, do yourself a favor, and get out now.
