Am I wasting my time?
I was married for 15 years and am not recently divorced.. During the process of my divorce I had phone conversations with someone who became my confidant and best friend. I found myself very attracted to this person from the begining but neither of us acted on it because of the fear of losing our friendship. After time, we both thought we could be togather and have no strings attached. We have now been sleeping togather for about 2 months. We spend a lot of time togather and stay togather many nights. I have noticed at times that he tries to distance himself from me and other times when he can't get enough of me. He himself just got out of a long time relationship at the same time as my divorce. He doesn't feel that he can put himself out there again to have a serious relationship. Ihave told him how I felt and that I was emotionally attached to him and that someday I would like a relationship with him. His resistance to a relationship has not affected our friendship nor our physical relationship. We still hang out often and spend 3 to 4 nights togather. i don't know if we will ever get to the point of a relationship or if I am wasting my time.
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You're not listening to him, and you're not reading his actions correctly.
The distance he puts between the two of you is because he doesn't want the attachment that you've already confessed to. That is consistent with his saying that he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship right now.
When he can't get enough of you, that's because he's horny. Straight up. That's all there is to it.
Honestly, I would ask the same thing. How are you wasting time if you have a friend, lover & confidant all in one?
just take a breath & if you need to talk... talk to him as your friend, your confidant. I suggest leaving lover to the side because passion is best in bed & podiums. ;)
Just take things slow! You were married for 15 years and finally have your freedom back, why jump into something else serious, when you are both obviously not ready. Give it all time and see what happens. You don't want to rush something that could be awesome and ruin it.
I think you're going to end up hurt. You care about him and want a relationship. He doesn't want a relationship. You have to assume that he won't change your mind and think about how you would feel then.
Whoa. You both just got out of serious relationships and are dealing with the baggage that comes with that. Why is it important that you jump into a serious committed relationship with this guy right now?
Love, how are you wasting time? You getting good loving 3-4 times a week!!
They guy is likely not ready for a relationship, so if thats what you want you will have to look elsewhere... eventually. But really, have as much sex as possible to get over the divorce and the dry spell you likely experienced during the breakup-divorce phase.
Sex is good for health, get as much as possible..
