Whats our problem?
My boyfriend and i have been dating for more than three months. At first i thought our relationship was going well but we started to fight alot and i dont understand why. We would fight like every week or every two week. Hes the type of person who gets jealous very easily, he wants to number one in my life like he wants to be the one i love, he wants me to think about him alot and worsr of all is that he broke his promises to me and hide his feelings from me. Hes not a bad person, he doesnt mean it, he doesnt mean tobstart fights or break his promises. When we almost broke up, i cried alot, that day i realized that i love him alot but i dont understand what our problem is and i dont know if i should try to break up with him again?
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Read over what you wrote. Put aside your vision of what you think/hope the relationship could/would be and read what you shared the reality is.
1. You said he is the jealous type and wants to be number one in your life and have you think of him a lot. What this tells me clearly is that in other words he is the controlling/insecure type.
2. You mention that worst of all he breaks his promises to you. He doesn’t sound very trustworthy to me.
Then notice that you then defend him by saying that he don't "mean" to break his promises or start fights. Keep in mind that anyone can make excuses for why they treat someone else bad and why they lie and so forth. A person who shows another person they really care is by changing negative actions that hurt the other person and actually do something about it.
Should you try to break up with him? You don't "try" you simply DO. He does not hold any control/power over you unless your willing to be a doormat for him or anyone else.
Tell him your moving on and leave him. Don't be one of these women that you see on TV crime shows that get abused by some guy that has deep issues. Find someone who is honest and actually shows you real love and not just empty words.
