Asked by M5Driver on
Why is today's woman so flakey?
There is no more honesty in the world of dating anymore. Especially when it comes to dating women. I've had a hell of a time getting women to go on second and third dates with me when they tell me that they like me and want to see me again. They never answer the phone when I call, they take 2 days to text me back. Always telling me they are too busy for the entire week, every week when I ask them out. Why can't women just tell me that they are not interested so I don't have to keep asking them out only to get turned down 15 times. Can't women be honest anymore?
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Nothing strange about this. You are making yourself to available and coming off as needy and not a guy who has a lot going on. You need to start dating several girls so that you know you have alot of options. Never chase them because that is what every dull guy does. You are no challenge to them.
it is their nature to be that way. most of them are losers anyway, just sayin.
This is kind of strange because we women have been going through this for ages. It's the frustrating/hurtful/inconsiderate part of dating. It wasn't until I watched the horror movie "He's just not that into you" that I just let it go. I would say the same. If there is mutual like, it won't be such a mission. So by showing her lack of consideration and honesty she's doing you a favor by not wasting your time. Take a deep breath, acknowledge it and just let it go. Don't carry it forward or the next girl will suddenly be paying this other one's foolishness.
One other thing, not all women are flakes so please don't make generalizations. That's how people wind up bitter and crazy.
M5Driver. Your welcome and I'm glad that we could be of help. I agree with you in that I'd rather have a potential date just tell me flat out that I'm just not what she is looking for rather then not call back and so forth but as Jadailha mentioned also, they don't want to be hurtful. Little do they realize that it's probably more hurtful and confusing sometimes when they tell you they are interested but then don't call back and so forth.
Be patient in waiting for that right person for you. All good things in life take time and keep in mind that it only takes that one special person to walk into your life and you will look back and think, wow I'm glad these others didn't work out after all.
That is what I keep in mind anyway.
Good luck to you.
Thank you for helping me to understand. The confusing part is when women actually tell you either in person or on the phone that they are interested and then their actions don't reflect it. I am only frustrated because over the past 6 months I have run into this more times that I care to say. I guess I am only left with the question of "are there really that many women who are not compatable with me?" It's a rhetorical question I know, but I seem to fit the mold of what women say they want in a man, and yet I am having such trouble finding a quality compatable woman to actually start a relationship with me. It's just frustrating. I sincerely thank you.
M5Driver, Hello, and I hate to be the first one to answer your question, but you deserve the truth.
The women you're speaking of are lying to you in an attempt not to be honest in fear of hurting your feelings. For women, when we are on dates, we feel as if we're on the spot. Too many times, men in general can't or won't notice body language or subtle signals.
After the first date, we often do what you describe. Women know that men have feelings, and we don't want to hurt them. At times, it is often easier to not respond or to not text, or return calls. I hate it when women feel they have to do this; honesty is better.
You're not wrong to be angry, or hurt. I can understand your frustration. They won't tell you know because they fear hurting you. Perhaps you can try this. After the first date, if you would like to see the woman again, just ask for the honest truth right then and there! If you sense any hesitation, then expect nothing more.
You have your answer already from them not calling you back. If you go on a date and then you try to call and they don't pick up the phone or call you back then, well, there you go. You might rather that they tell you flat out that they are not interested but they are probably trying to go easy on you and don't want to hurt your feelings so they send you the message by just not calling back.
Maybe your being to pushy with them ? Ask once and then let it go though. They know your interested. If you keep asking them, calling them, texting them, they will probably see you as flakey yourself and so they just ignore you because they don't want to light a fuse on someone who might flake out on them.
That is how I would guess they see things. Besides, are there flakey women in the world? Sure there are but in general keep in mind that woman need to be much more guarded in today's world from crazy psycho men then men having to fear some crazy woman stalking them. Don't take it personal, if they don't call you back then find someone else to date who will call you back.