If you "classify" a person as a "friend" does it ever change?
Hi, all. I need to know this and thank you for your help. Once you decide that a person is "friend only" do your emotions ever change and you decide that maybe it's more than friendship? Do you ever refile this person from "friend" to "potental lifemate"? Do your feelings change? Many thanks for your assistance and response!
-Jane
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I'm in the same spot as you right now. I've been friends with a girl for almost 3 years now. I asked her out once but she had just broken up with her bf, of which I had no idea how long they had been going out, so nothing hapened. So we stayed friends but I can see us as more. If it's meant to, it'll happen. The best relationships are built off of the two of you being friends first. You may be surprised at what happens.
As abc123youandme said, it depends on the situation, sometimes that can change from friend zone but it varries a lot.
I think in general terms though that once a person is in the friend zone, it's usually for a reason. A person can be a great friend but when asked by someone else why two people (man and a woman) are not more then friends, there is usually a responce like. " so and so is great, we get along so well but"
If two people like eachother though and there is nothing holding them back such as distance, job, interests, then they will move from a friend zone into something deeper in a reasonable amount of time. It's when there are diffenent issues that make all the difference in the world that can quickly put a person in the friend zone for life. Sometimes two people can have a ton of stuff in common but they are just not meant to be more then friends.
It is entirely possible. It depends on the situation. Sometimes people start off as "friends only" for different reasons. Some examples would be, one of the persons is already involved with someone else at the time. Or it could be that the lifestyles at the time don't match. It could be that there isn't any attraction at the time. Like if he or she is blonde and you prefer brunettes, then 5 years later they dye their hair... It could be the level of maturity, and as people get older they may become totally different. There are people now that I wouldn't have even considered friends back then but now it might be a different story. But if you are already friends then it could progress into something more if the situation changes, also especially if one of you two has already liked the other in the more than friend way. But if you are unsure about moving it past friends, just make sure that it is not onesided so you don't lose a friend over mixed feelings and emotion.
