Asked by dizzy on
What gift should I give a new lover who is travelling cross-country to see me?
We have known each other for a little over a year...what we thought was a one-night makeout session has turned into what I can basically describe as a "consecutive hook-up situation"- every time we run into each other, we end up hooking up. The last few times (have been much more often) we have both been surprised to realize that the other is much more complex than each thought, and have added a pleasant layer of mental/emotional attraction and comfort that neither of us expected. I live on the east coast, and he lives on the west coast, though he has to travel worldwide frequently for work. He is visiting for my birthday in a few weeks and I would like to give him something, even if it is something small/cheap, to show him my appreciation. NB: he has been separated from his wife only for a short time, it seems he is wary from getting too involved too quickly. So obviously whatever it is couldn't be too intense.
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He's still married?? Whoa, cowgirl. Give the man a nice dinner and a good conversation. Nothing else. Wait for the last relationship to end before you begin yours. Good luck!
I have literally been in this exact situation. I never felt the need to get a real gift, save for maybe a fancy bottle of wine, fancy dinner, and an outing that is fun and unexpected, like ice skating. If you do want to get him something small, make it really personal, like a cool vintage copy of his favorite book. I see that you asked this question a few months ago, so I guess the birthday visit already happened - but I hope that it went well!
first thing that comes to mind is a compass. Playful and aluding to you pointing him in the right direction. My next one would be though it sounds cheesy men dig this sorta thing a map something that you can maybe draw on a piece of parchment and the x marking the spot is your bedroom, it's playful corney and shows a bit of youth to your relationship. I hope you have a enchanting birthday,,
that's so sweet he's traveling to see you! obviously you are the only gift he wants but if you take him to your favorite spots (that he'll likely enjoy) for dinner & outings - that'll mean a lot. i was just in the same situation, but flew to visit him. he took me to his favorite spots & it was so enjoyable. especially laying in the park and taking walks. have fun!
If you want to make your man happy, take advice from a man. He is coming all this way and you bet he is thinking about hooking up with you again. With that said, give him a set of colorful c*ck rings that he can immediately put to use on you. Both you and hm will benefit.
If you want to make your man happy, take advice from a man. He is coming all this way and you bet he is thinking about hooking up with you again. With that said, give him a set of colorful c*ck rings that he can immediately put to use on you. Both you and hm will benefit.
Great suggestions Lyz! I was going to say much the same thing...perhaps go to a book store and get him a book from a favored author to read while travelling. He'll enjoy the book, hopefully, and think of you while doing it! A brightly colored strap for his luggage, the kind that prevents the luggage from opening when dropped, will distinguish his luggage and he'll think of you when he sees it! Heck even a pair of cozy warm slippers to wear in the hotel would be a wonderful gift to my mind! Just be sure they have a non-skid bottom.
I had much the same experience with my love...we knew each other for a few years and then met and BAM out of the blue attraction! Some of the things I did for him was to buy a framed movie poster of a movie he couldn't stop raving about, a set of book from an author we both admired but he hadn't read and later when it was clear this was a lasting thing I crochetted him a lap robe.
Gosh almost anything can be intimate and yet be something you'd do for a treasured friend I think it's all in the presentation.
He travels all the time? You're not the only woman he hooks up with. Give him a box of condoms (and remember they really don't protect you from Herpes and someone doesn't have to have actual blisters to give it to you).
You should give him some great luggage tags, carry on case, laptop case, something to make his traveling easier and then write a little note that says "I hope this XX helps you travel back to me soon."