What should I do in a situation where the guy's sending me mixed signals?
So I went to this meeting for a new job this guy I know told me about (same guy that said lets just be friends). But anyway as the group gets into this deep discussion, out of nowhere, I find him staring at me, intensely. I was shook up by it, flattered, and extra nervous, I can still remember how my heart sped up. I wanted to look away quick, and I tried to, but I felt a huge pull. And not only that but because I like him it got me anxious. Its not like I dressed up for the meeting, I don't wear make up, the occasion lip palm maybe. And either way in that moment it was like he was trying to tell me something, reading me, or just thinking because his half balled up fist, cupped is bottom lip. It looked like he was stroking it. But honestly what really got me was that I'd caught myself staring at him, but he'd never caught me. lol. Then when our eyes met like that I could barely breathe. This isn't normal for me at all. I'd only felt that way about one person and now I don't know what to think. I can't get over the look in his eyes, so beautiful. I just don't understand why he'd act this way if he only wanted us to be friends. Its just not right. So what do you think? I'd like to add that he gave me even more looks that night some shorter than others.It was something so pure and honest about them.
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When a man says "Let's just be friends" he means he's not interested in a relationship. That doesn't mean he's not interested in sex. Don't go there. "Eyes" "looks" and "starring" have no real meaning. Sending you flowers & taking you to dinner has REAL meaning. It still doesn't earn sex. Let him offer you something real before you make a move.
He may have something else going on that prevents him from even entertaining the idea of getting into the relationship. Could be anywhere from he is extra busy at work to some sort of family issue that will require a lot of attention to he already is seeing someone and you just really caught him off guard.
I would say to respect his request. Perhaps, in time, you can discover what the issue is...and the issue may be that he simply prefers to move really slow and wants to see if you can be friends first!
Either way, he has told you what he wants, so respect it. Trying to second guess him will get you no where. The only other thing you could do, which is something I might even do depending on how attracted I am to the other person, is to ask him why...but that is kinda pushing it seeing as how you don't have any history between you.
