Asked by desano on
What should i do my boyfriend hasn't taken the time to see me in two months now he wants to start seeing me again
i'm not sure if i should get back together with this man he is very budsy with work and his mother. i've talked to him a little on the phone and i care about him i'm just not sure if this is the way this relatinship is going to stay. he does'nt live very close so it's not that easy for us to see each other. i've never gone to his house. he's been to mine all the time. what should i do. should i let him go or keep him. he's always trete mme very well when we are together. he tells me he loves me but acions speak louder than words.
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Here is what happened. He was dating another girl for two months and it didn't work out, so he went back to you. You have to decide if it's ok with you that you are his second choice. Plus, if a first choice comes a long you are going to be in the same situation that you were before.
I truly think u should jus let it go while ur feelings are not so invovled i understand that he has the job and the mother thing goin on obviousley they r top priority n ur not if he could jus put u to the side for 2 months , n u say u neva been 2 his house that makes me think he has somthin 2 hide
You should talk to him about your situation
Ask him if he can do some changes or
adjustment with his time, tell him he should also
give you some of his time. If he can't do anything
about it, then you should let it go. that will not
work anymore and you'll get hurt too.
Talk to him about these questions. Tell him that you care for him and like that he is kind and treats you well and you want it to work, you just need more from him.
Odds are he is distracted and overwhelmed with his work and mother, but you two are at a point where you need to sit down together and discuss how dedicated you are to making this work.
These are concerns that you should really be discussing with him. We all have our different needs in a relationship, so you could get a whole mess of answers that don't work for you.
You can also take what you know and work with that right now. He has a demanding job and I'm guessing his mother needs assistance due to some medical condition and that, for the last 2 months, those 2 things were more important than making time to go see you. Did he talk to you during that time? Did he explain and apologize for his situation? Or did he just figure that you'll hang out and wait for him until his schedule clears up?
You say he is a great guy and he treats you well, and it may be that he does love you very much but these obligations he has now require more of his time and attention than he can spare for you.
So talk with him about all of this. Let him know how you feel and that you question if you are right for each other. This may just be a case of bad timing, that you two are great for each other but his life is just really complicated right now. It happens. You need to speak with him and decide if you want to stick around and see if it gets better or if he can actually tell you when things will get better and keep his word on it OR you can figure out if this won't work for you.