If we rushed into the relationship six months ago, can we still make it work?
Met my guy online in March. We started dating a few weeks later even though he lived in another state. I would say we are compatible on many levels but still learning about each other.
Last week he moved to a place 30 minutes from me, which is great and we are still working on creating a balance. There are some doubts & frustrations entering into the relationship. He's looking to purchase land to build a house, while I am working & going back to school.
Initially I was a bit uneasy & resentful about how quickly the relationship moves. Now I feel that we are committed to making our partnership work & being strong.
My question is: even if we got involved intimately rather quickly in the beginning, does that make it harder to work through issues that arise now?
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I think you guys are on the right track. You are committed and willing and working. That's what it takes. No one gets a relationship right. Some people go slow, some fast. But what makes a couple work is their willingness, to well...WORK. And you guys got that. Just keep communication open, honest and respectful and let him know up front what your expectations are. That's what makes things easier in the long run.
I really don't see why it should if you both are committed to the same ideal AND if you both take individual responsibility to make it happen.
There are no set, solid rules that every relationship should go by. Yeah, there are some universal guidelines that everyone can follow, but its your relationship. You both set the speed and decide on the direction and approach together. Its your own thing as the collective couple.
You'll find your balance and see how you fit into each others lives outside of phone calls and IMs. You'll either learn to incorporate these new experiences into your relationship, or find out that you worked better online then off. But if you both are really committed to making this work, then you'll both do whatever is within your power that is right for you to make it work.
