Asked by J Medrano on
Morning or night?
At night it might seem like just one more thing to do before you can rest..and who wants to go to bed without a shower now..I hate having my hair wet at night. In the morning..time is short..maybe even frustrating short...but you can hop right in that shower. How do you solve your hygenic / cosmetic sex problems?
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Actually, sorry NYCButterfly. I have to respectfully disagree. All of that cliche "light candles" stuff only works for so long and plus you have to find time to do that too.
Ultimately, I think you just have to MAKE yourself do it. A lot of times I find I psyche myself out of sex before it even happens. In those times I tell my husband that he might have to "woo me a little more" then, mentally I try to get into a good frame of mind. Start the physical motions, just do it and get your mind to follow behind. Don't think about what you have to do in a few minutes or tomorrow or later. Just think about him. Get your head in the game. You'll never regret it.
It seems like you are thinking too much about it as if it were a chore and taking the passion out of the situation. Does your partner have a preference? Maybe you can try the evening before you get too tired? Make a romantic dinner, light candles, nice music - take time to appreciate the moment as well as your spouse.