Asked by adesi82 on
Should infidelity be paid for in diamonds?
EVERYTHING has its price and it seems the price of infidelity can be particularly high. So what do you say? Can you change habits or attach your habit to it to at least gain something if not faithfulness?
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Short article, but thanks for the link.
I think what I would have liked to have seen from the article was more on how the wife felt about the whole thing. Impossible to do given the circumstances, but it doesn't really look like she was requiring compensation for his adultery, more like he was doing whatever he could to assuage his guilt.
I'm not saying its right, but the "possible" context of the article seems to indicate that his fairs were (and I can't really find the right word for this) accepted. Perhaps, to some degree, while his wife was hurt by the affairs she may have rationalized that it was just sex and that he still loves her despite his dalliances. Once again, not saying that is right either, but he didn't just buy her expensive jewelry when he had an affair, but for many occasions, and it seemed to be indicated in the article that his affairs were an "open secret." Perhaps that was the norm for back then when I don't think a lot of sexual scandals really made it into the news.
I still don't like the idea of marriage as a financial arrangement, but I'm not so naive to disbelieve that there are many marriages like that today.
Yes, but when they do all that, are sorry, repentent, loving, apologetic, kind, remorseful, and make every effort in the world to make it better. When they do all that.... it's still nice to receive plenty of diamond jewelry!
I think Tbone hit the nail on the head.
You can't buy back love and trust. A cheater needs to show they are sorry by their actions. Spend time with the beloved. Stop cheating. Tell them how much you love them.
It depends if you mean the diamonds go to the Affair Partner or the Betrayed Spouse who takes her wronged husband back.
If you are an affair partner and you want diamonds to keep the secret, be the cake on the side, then I think they are no better than a hooker asking for payment.
If it's the betrayed spouse receivig the diamonds, and this atrocious thing has occurred for them which involves being a victim of deception and having their life risked via possible STD's unknowingly subjected to.....well , I think along with all the sorrow, shame , remorse, repentence, apologies and assurances it won't happen again, AND DURING THE REBUILDING, if he can afford it , some diamonds help very much. I have received a variety of diamond presents during rebuilding along with the love, kindness, apologies and sorrow. Plus some wonderful romantic rebuilding vacations. Yes, diamonds help me very much get through this.
If you can put a price on love, then is there any real feeling in the first place?
I m happy to read opposing answers to my Q.
Just so you know and don't jump to conclusions like most do. This Q was prompted by "http://www.reuters.com/article/lifestyleMolt/idUSTRE57H2GD20090818" You should check it out if you havent till now.
Everything can be bought with a price tag IF it's fine with the people who choose to do that. Does it make it right? Thats a whole other issue and here are my feelings on the topic. I'm one who truly believes that a majority of women tend to go for men who have a ton of money. They put aside other factors and sell themselves short if that man has lots of cash.
I need to stress a few things here. I don't feel that ALL women who want a guy who has cash are bad people, I feel some of them just want to be more stable and they are not out to just use a man for what he has.
To the ones who put a price on themselves though and sell there morals and everything else just to be with a guy who has money, those women are flat out wrong.
Nobody, man or woman should ever sell themselves out for money. If someone has cheated in the relationship then I don't care who did it, who has the money or who does not, no price can be put on that. You don't have a person buy you something extra nice because they blackened your eye for example the day before and a shopping trip cures the issue and keeps your silence.
I think I can try to attempt to rationalize where you are going with this, but its an idea I abhor.
I live by my morals, and those morals have kept me from partaking in any form of infidelity. I have been tempted sorely on that as well, and while there were some nights when I was single that I would lie awake and wonder why I didn't just do it (and you'd have to know the full story to really understand why it was so hard for me to turn it down).
I don't feel like I charge or pay anything for being faithful. It, like love, should be given freely. You learn over time and experience who is deserving of such a gift, but its not something to be used as a bargaining chip.
Contrary to popular belief, not everything nor everyone has a price.