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Was she right or was i?
My best friend and i got into a big fight because she chose her boyfriend for a year over me and i felt like i wasnt important anymoree . i told her that her boyfriend was cheating on her with 2 people and she still didnt belive me even if i let her talk to the people and she hadd emails and converstaionas sent to her and she still didnt me. i wuz like wtfff?????????? well we are not friends but i just wnted to know wuz it wrong for me to be a good friend or was i right to tell her the truth? he is also a jealous perosn and totally CONTROLLLLL FREAKKKKK he has her didgnity her self respect like she has no self respect fpr herse;\lf and she thinks hes the one for herr now tell me wat should i doo// pleasee HELPPP MEEE
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OMG! That totaly reminds me of a situation I went through w/ a REALLY GOOD FIREND of mine. We were friends since kindergarden and a situation came up when we were about 20yrs old. (i'm 25 now) Her man was an asshole. He was totaly in control of her. So, what happened was: He cheated on her w/ a girl we all knew and when I found out I told her about it, she told him and the next time he seen me out he slapped me. (not hard but he made sure I knew he was mad at me) Well the good thing about that was that my brother was his friend and checked his ass. haha! (then he made him apologize to me) lol
Anywho, my friend was there when her man slapped me and she didnt say a damn word. She looked scared to say anything to me or to him. So, yes me and her didnt talk for a while. Aventually, he got into some trouble with the law and now he is long gone. Now me and her talk again and she apologized crying to me. I know she meant it. So of course I forgave her.
My advise is let your friend realize how much of a peice of shit her man is and your friend will come back around to you and apologize for putting you second. At that point you decide weather her friendship means that much to you to befriend her again. Good Luck!
Your friend is not going to listen to you. She's mad at you now, and she won't hear your words anyway. She needs to get a dose of reality about the guy anyway. If he really is a looser, she need to get away. Loosers never get better, I know, I was married to one, they only get worse. But, she' not going to leave him because you said so, she needs to see it for herself. Which might never happen. Therefore, you need to find another friend, till she sees the truth.
either way it will turn out bad. if you tell her or dont tell tell, she will be upset with you. the best course is just to stay out of it. don't put pressure on her as a friend and make her choose between her boyfriend and friend.
keep your feelings and opinions out of it and just support her. you cant talk to her about her behavior but not his. untilimatly for all of us, it comes down to what we are willing to allow in the relationship.
he will never treat her good if she doesn't demand it. i think you're barking up the wrong tree trying to get her to see that he is a bad guy. i think you should help her to see that she deserves more.
thankzz soo muchh but she wont listen to mee like she bascially ses hes more important than anyone especially me . so she cut me off has her best friendd
This happened to me a while back. I say its a good thing you told her but she will have to find out for herself that he's not worth it. What you have to do is tell her w/o an angry tone that she is going to loose him eventually because of the way he is, and she will need a friend when that comes. Tell her that you might not be there since she doesn't at least take a look into what you are saying. Tell her that you told her about the cheating because you believe that she is worth so much and you dont want to see her fall into this guys web of deception and lies and once it goes on even further it will be so hard to get out of. Tell her that she doesnt need this, that the time she is wasting with this guy is time lost in finding the one guy that will actually love her and not treat her as his booty call.