Asked by applescinnamon on
How to know when a liar tells the truth?
My bf of year and half lied the whole time together about being with another woman. he had an affair on his wife, left her the woman he had the affair with was also married but didn't leave her husband. he's been with her last 5 yrs. i believed it had ended b/w them, it hadn't. he has lied so many times it has left me totally confused on when he is telling the truth - and this goes only as far as our relationship is concerned. I believe he tells the truth about other things. He is totally dishonest with me about her and him though.
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If he has lied so much that he has broken your trust. i don't believe that you will ever fully trust anything that he says. If the trust is broken in a relationship, then in general the relationship is broken and its all about whether you want to fix it or not. My concern is for your self-esteem. Why do you want to stay with someone who cheated on you and lied to you? Perhaps you need a break from him to clear your head. Once your head is clear, your gut will tell you when he is lying and when he is not. You have to relearn how to trust yourself where he is concerned. You doubt yourself because you probably thought everything was okay when it wasn't and he was cheating. et back in contact with you and trusting your gut.
u cant know with all philosophy discription of life bcs a liar will always be a liar, is an addiction of satan, only way u can know is when you pray let God reveal the truth of his sayin to you, bcs he might be telling the truth one day that's very concern and needed to be attend to, so while his proffessing tune yourself to God and let Him alone convince you.
but my candid advise is that there's nothing u should have with liars, they cansteal, kill and destroy. I hate lies in my life. i hate it.
i think when a person tells d truth he/she looks satisfied from himself/herself.
tell him to provide the contact details of person about whom he is likely to tell lie, if he is agree to give details, contact the person and if he do not want to give details it is almost clear that he is trying ti hide something.
a last word, if u r confused about his truthfulness, he is surely telling a lie...
thanks for reading...
run ,,,,dont walk..i wasted 18 years with a man like that and when i knew in my heart he was lying, he would convince me that he was telling the truth . when i knew for sure he had hidden all the money we had and slept with many many women and i am blessed that i didnt contact a disease
How can you tell when a liar is telling the truth?
His/Her lips stop moving!!!
If a liar is talking, he's not telling the truth...plain and simple.
Now can a liar be reformed? I have hope in all things, but realistically, I just don't know.
Keep looking, there are men out there who don't lie about everything :) Good luck!
I feel your pain. Once a liar, always a liar. Some just lie as a form of survival. It's sad, but it happens more often than we would like to think. Just remember to keep yourself safe, at all times. No lie is worth your safety or health.
You're not going to be able to tell when this guy tells the truth. You need to find a better guy. They are good men out there who don't lie like this.
Although I think it is possible for a liar to be reformed, one of this magnitude probably needs therapy. Just imagine how many years he's probably been lying to his wife and girlfriends plus you. It's pretty easy to figure out that everytime a liar is speaking, at least some of it's truth, that's why he (or she) is believed. Maybe you should suggest therapy. And maybe you should cut things off with him untill he figures out what he wants and gets some help. Possibly you should ask yourself why you would want to stay in a situation with someone who is practically a compulsive liar annd doesn't value the time that he spends with any of his ladies (including you). Should you deided to stay with him without therapy/counseling/psychiatry, stop questioning his lying because he's doing all the time and he's allowed to because you let it continue.