Asked by tangofan on
What do you do when you find yourself restless, bored or lonely?
My lady friend is busy with her three kids and school (full-time) which leaves me with a lot of time for myself. I stay busy when my son visits every 2-3 weeks and by working and volunteering. I've gotten better when it comes to filling my time. Just asking.
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Usually read or get scrapbooking.
Did you ever consider taking some classes in a subject that you find interesting? Many colleges and universities have wonderful classes that can give you something to do that's productive! Since you don't need the class, just take something you're interested in.
You could also take your child on small road trips and visit museums, zoos, and dine at restaurants that you've never been to before.
If you can, perhaps take a weekend trip out of state and see some attractions that you've never been to. America is full of wonderful places. Take lots of photos of your events
Turn off all the lights, break out a few candles, a bottle of whiskey, do shots and play guitar til I get over it, which is not so difficult to do, after an hour or two, the whiskey kicks in, I've played all the songs that help me get through, and I feel better about myself, music is the greatest answer to all situations, being able to play an instrument helps alot, I play what I feel instead of fumbling through media player to play songs that relate it's a grand therapy session.
I agree with Qverb! I started doing all the things I wanted to do that I couldn't while raising kids and having a career. Now there just isn't enough time, and find I have to schedule in a date book or set an alarm so I actually go to bed before the new day starts. What did you always want to do or wish to to? Like learn to play the guitar, write a book, different profession......? What ever, go for it! Now is your chance!
I look inwardly when I feel that pang to see if I have neglected myself and then I meditate. Usually I cry (or meditate) and then take a walk to see new things.
Sometimes I dress up and go to a food store, just to buy some butter or icecream! :)
I seek out large groups of people too,like at a book store or a library or even at a concert! I want to be happy and enjoy things when I feel lonely. It makes the loneliness go away.
Your plan of action is good! Did you consider asking her if she needs help? Three kids sounds really crazy to handle,and the aid in the stress might be appreciated?
Tangofan!
I was wondering how you were doing since I hadn't seen you on here for awhile!
The volunteering is great, but you could also sign up for a class or two on something you are interested in, get a gym membership or begin some other form of keeping up good physical shape (not saying you aren't) or take up a new hobby.
I tend to read a lot and enjoy some video games...then there is also the amount of time I spend on here. If I had more time I'd make more use of this beautiful island I'm living on.
But I understand what you mean by getting restless, bored, and lonely. For awhile I used to spend many a night at Starbucks just reading and drinking coffee ( I have a strange metabolism that lets coffee keep me up in the morning but doesn't keep me from sleeping at night). I love to write so, more often than not, I'd jot down quotes and thoughts from the material I was reading, usually to use as subject material for blogs, journals, and personal essays.
Just stay strong though. It sounds like you are doing pretty good. The only other thing I could suggest is enlisting the aid of some friends when you are starting to get in a funk to distract you from it.