Asked by amelia on
Whay are guys clueless?
How come guys never see what's standing right in front of them? I am the type of person who would throw themselves in front of a bus to save someone else. I help single parents with their kids and older persons, "active seniors," because I believe no one should be abandoned or alone. I am not the type that argues over everything or that needs to be the center of attention. Yet, it seems that every guy would rather be with the popular skinny blonde in the roon than ever give me the time of day. I go completly unnoticed and it truth it sucks. I love being the person that I am and I dont want to be so superficial like a lot of the people I see. But, honestly do guys ever notice the person sitting in the corner talking to someone's grandparents and playing with the kids or will they always just be focused on the beverly hills wanna be standing by the dance floor?
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Thank you everyone for your kind words. I am starting to believe that I'm not as messed up as I think I am. Though I'm still skeptical most of the time. I now have an inkling of hope that maybe someday.... someday someone may actually see me for once. preferrably before the age of 60 (since the women in my family have a hard time making it after their husbands die around 55.) ;) Anyways, I am glad that it seems as though I have ones rallying for me to stay the person that I am, it is easier to do that than try to string along a persona ( I know since mistakenly tried that when I was very young and dumb. Not one of my finer moments...).
Thanks again everyone...
Like everyone else has said, you haven't met the right guy yet. It's not that there's anything wrong with you; you just haven't found someone who can really and truly appreciate you for who your are. You said it right: don't be superficial. Stay who you are.
You are special, and when that man who God has for you comes along, he'll know it too.
As a guy I agree whole-heartedly with the ladies. Those guys you're referring to aren't the right guys for you. They may look good on the surface, but you can never really tell who they are on the inside. Odds are they aren't internally right for you either.
Don't lament that. You are one of those lucky few who has such an amazingly strong understanding of who you are and what you want that when you do meet the right guy its going to be amazing! Just stray true to who you are and doing what you love to do...the right guy will show up when the time is right, and he will appreciate everything there is to appreciate about you.
I agree with Julie ahead of me, ya know- it's ironic that last night I had this same talk with my good guy friend. I was lamenting how all the guys I seem to know/are interested in, end up liking the girls that are loose or a lil skanky. But what he said, rang true to me, we're one of a kind, and don't change to 'fit' someone else's ideal, because you'll be miserable, wait for a guy who doesn't care about the shallow aspect of women.
I think you need to keep your head high, and your heart outta reach- until a really special and good guy, comes along, because these other losers are not worth your breath or a second- no scratch that- first glance.
You don't ever want the one who's going after the bimbos first. So to all guys you're referring to, forget them.
I would suggest looking for someone who shares the same altruistic interests as you—volunteering, loves kids, charity work etc. They're a rare breed, but think of it this way. You're a rare person. Don't be discouraged by the fact that you're not being approached or hit on by run-of-the-mill guys. Instead, take the initiative and approach someone who falls into your criteria for once.