Asked by staraka on
Guys don't play hard to get so what's his problem?
Okay, so I might just be overreacting again as usual. And its even possible that I have the situation figured out already but I'm anxious. Things have been going really well with this new guy that I've been talking too. He seems like a really cool dude. And I want to get to know him even more. So, we set up a date....boom...Big flop and a major change of plans. Couldn't be helped. We think about a redo for the date (which we haven't set yet because I don't wanna seem like I'm rushing him or too forward, I guess. Plus he says he wants to have enough money.) But anyway day before yesterday, we talk like normal, but somethings different, he's acting kinda strange. And for two days now, we haven't talked like normal. And I know he's probably just busy with work and other stuff, like me. But I'd like to know whats up and if he's okay. And when I write him (just small stuff like, hi, but not excessively) I've gotten no response. SO I'm going with the tactic I think would be best and that's not to chase him. I think he if likes me he'll come around, its okay to be patient but I'm not gonna sit there on the side lines forever. This has never happened to me before. What do you think? I mean he really seemed to like me too. And I know he couldn't be playing hard to get? Could he? Some strategy?
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It'll be good for you to back off a little and give him time to reply. I doubt he is playing games (although I've known a few guys that actually do play hard-to-get). He may be really busy with work or some other project...you just can't tell.
Its really up to you how long you are willing to wait though. Take some time to think about it and set a date. If nothing happens by that date then move on.
Don't chase after him. Like I've said before, when a man really and truly wants a woman, he will do what he can to get her into his life. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If he says he's into you, but he's showing something different, pay attention!!!
I agree it's probably not the case that he is playing hard to get. My best advice is to wait a few (1-4) weeks, then if he hasn't contacted you by then, contact him and ask how he's been doing. It's true, trying to contact him constantly gives a bad impression of clingyness but not contacting him at all shows little to no concern which can be equally as bad. During the 1-4 weeks you can relax, go to the gym to take your mind off things, I've even noticed that it is acceptable to meet new people on a social level (nothing serious). If after the 1-4 weeks he is still unavailable, you can continue to wait for him (which may never come) or you can progress your relationships with the people you met on your social outings.