Says he'll call, then doesn't...
I have been with my guy for a year and the only thing that ever gets on my nerves is that sometimes he'll say he'll call, but then he doesn't. So, Monday at noon he'll say he'll call me after work, then Wednesday he'll call and ask why I haven't called him. I've asked him about it and he tells me that sometimes he get really caught up with the things he's doing (work, bowling, baseball, vacations, out of town for work, and other social engagements), and he says that I should make more effort to call him. I hate to call when he says he's doing something because I feel like I'd be disturbing him, but maybe I should make a more concerted effort? Seriously, since we've been dating, I've dialed the phone less than fifty times, but that's because he always says he'll call. Qverb, I know you have the answer...
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Well, Nubian, I have a life, I don't sit by the phone "waiting for him to call", either he does or he doesn't, I just kow that if I tell him I'll call and he keeps calling me, I'd get pretty annoyed, so I don't do things to other people that I knnow would bother me. That being said, we went to dinner and I've made a commitment to be more proactive as far as initiating contact. He's admitted to being a phone call flake sometimes, but says he loves when I send him text messages and call him out of the blue, even when he can't talk. I guess I have problems sometimes looking at the world in any way other than my own, but I thank you all for your input and I'm gonna make sure that I put in at least three calls a week... even if I'm conversing with the voicemail! THANKS!
Call him and see how it will go. Surely, there will be a moment when he's not doing anything. There should be a moment when he gets a chance to text you. There will be moments when you are not available...he should leave a message saying "I am thinking about you," or "I miss you." Have you gotten that? Check to see if he is still into you. (even though, it's been over a year.)
Ya know, sometimes I worry about the faith some of you put in me, but I appreciate it!
Any-who, just call him. From what you've said here and elsewhere I'm not surprised that your guy has an uber busy schedule. Nubian is right though. Call him. At worst he can't speak to you at that moment and will call you back as soon as he can, or ask you to try calling back in a few minutes, or whatever.
I understand the super busy schedule, so I appreciate it when my gal calls, even when work is hectic. For me it actually helps me unwind or calm down just a little bit since I love hearing her voice, even when its just a quick call where I tell her I can't talk and she just says, "Okay, I'll talk to you later. Love you. Bye." Its sweet, its thoughtful, and it makes me smile, which always helps get rid of a little stress.
So just call him when you want to. At worst, like I said, he can't speak right at that moment. At best, he has free time that he can spend talking with you. At the very least, it will probably bring a smile to his face and brighten his day a little!
I HAVE GOTTEN TO OLD TO SIT BY A PHONE AND WAIT FOR A MAN TO CALL ME.
HELL THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY CALL HIM FOE HEAVENS SAKE!
