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What do you feel when you fall in love?
Right know im on a relationship and everything is going really good. I feel so many things good things when im with that person! but i just wanna know what do you feel?
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When I was in love I felt happiness. I also felt sick to my stomach but that is because of nerves. When he was around I would always want to give him a hug and tell him thank you in little ways. I used to bake a guy cookies if we were dating for at least a month or more. When he bit into the cookie I would get a warm feeling inside.
It was amazing to be in love,but right now I am contemplating not dealing with love for awhile.
I think love redefines itself constantly and presents itself to you in different ways. When I was dating my husband "love" felt so emotional. I thought about him all the time, I craved being near him, I had the flutter in my heart, the lightheadedness, all those true but cliche emotions. Now, we've been married for 4 years. Every once and I while I still get the flutter, but now love has become something less emotional and more concrete. It expresses itself through actions (him happily fixing things I break without getting mad; me making him his lunch everyday without reminding him of it.) I think in the beginning love is fluttering emotion, but as you go on that emotion dies away and love turns into selfless giving. My FIL once said that love was looking at every situation bad or good and thinking not of yourself, but about how you can use that situation show that person you love them. I am far far from that. But I think he is on to something.
As Genevieve says, this is probably one of the hardest questions to give a defining answer for. I think its hard to because the act of falling in, being in, and just simply loving are very personal and in many ways unique and special to each of us.
Some people have definite signs that they are in love...like how whenever anybody grinds their teeh it gets on your nerves to the point where you can't stand them, but when the person you love does it, it still gets on your nerves but you know its part of who they are and you still love them.
The onset of love and the act of falling in love again and again, hopefully with the same person, can be just as Nubiancoco describes.
For me it starts out that way, an almost uncontrolable desire to constantly be with her. Over time that feeling cools and tempers into something more focused where my desire is to still be with her, but has now become more where I want to be my best for her, where I want to be there for her when she has a problem, and where I want to whats best for her during that problem, even if it means keeping out of her way.
Eventually as you experience various stages of love for yourself you'll understand what it means to you when you are in love.
Tutty -- this is such a GREAT question. It's also one that's so hard to definitively answer, but I think that you're feeling such good things when you're with him is a solid sign. I personally sign onto the "love is a verb" idea and believe that we show the long-lasting effects of love through action because emotions can be fleeting and fickle.
YOU FEEL SO MANY THINGS. I REMEMBER THE FIRST TIME I WAS IN LOVE. OMG
MY PALMS WOULD BE SWEATY. I WOULD HAVE BUTTERFLIES IN MY STOMACH.
I CAN REALLY DESCRIBE IT. YOU JUST FEEL DIFFERENT ON THE INSIDE. YOU HATE TO BE APART. YOU CANT WAIT TO SEE THAT PERSON. THERE ARE SO MANY EMOTIONS GOING THROUGH YOU. GOOD EMOTIONS! IM SAD TO SAY I ONLY HAD THAT FEELING ONCE IN MY LIFE. I DIDNT HAVE THESE FEELING WITH MY HUSBAND WHO IS NOW MY EX. AFTER ALL THESE YEARS IF I SAW HIM AGAIN I WOULD HAVE THOSE FEELINGS AGAIN. I NEVER STOPPED LOVING HIM.