Asked by nash on
Should I cheat on him too?
He cheated on me but wen I found out he apologized and ended that affair, he still communicates with that bitch but insists that they are just friends and nothing more. It seems like faithfulness does not pay thing. I want to have a secret relationship too
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If you will cheat too,would it be a real relationship?Without trust?Either break up with him or find a way of believing him.
If this is how you feel you really only have two choices: 1 Learn to let go of your resentment before it destroys you 2 Break up.
All your other choices (cheat back, make him pay, etc) are immature and unhealthy not just to your relationship but to you. If you can't get over it, move on.
Cheating on him is a really, really bad idea. Much better to leave as the others have suggested.
Cheating is probably the most destructive act in a relationship - add to the fact that he is still contacting her. My ex-husband cheated and it was devastating. When I found out he was still contacting her, I dropped my ring in his lap and said I was done. I never went back. It hurt, it was hard, but it was the best thing I could have ever done. I am now married to a wonderful man who is loving and faithful.
This kind of thing is beyond apology. He is not just friends with her. (this is exactly what my ex said - then he told all of his friends what a jealous bitch I was because I left him for just talking to some girl - he left out the part about screwing her!)
If you are a one man woman, walk away, take some time to recover, and find a good guy. There are many of them out there just waiting for a great girl like you. Your self esteem will always be attacked with this guy and the relationship will never be OK. I know others disagree but I found, once a cheater, always a cheater. Worse yet, you are giving him the message that it is ok by staying. HIpe it works out for you!
Bitterness is never pretty. You could have a secret affair and tell him about it later, but that will only denegrate the relationship further. As a matter of fact, because of the spite, I think it's more destructive.
Just take the high road and leave.