is there a difference between me hanging out with a girl, and my bi wife hanging out with a gay or bi girl?
my wife is bi, but not practicing. i mean that she hasn't been with a girl since we got together, but she still cant deny the part of her that is bi. Is there a difference between me a married man hanging out with a girl; and my bi wife hanging out with a bi or lesbian girl? I don't believe in putting myself in that kind of situation even though i would never cheat on my wife, there are boundries that married people should not play with. My wife thinks that there is no problem with her hanging out with bi females or gay females and that there are no comparisons on this issue. I do not see a difference between my wife spending her time with a man or with a bi/ gay female. am I irrational or logical either way, i don't see a difference.
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pour to many drinks down her and she'll be going bi so fast your head will spin. without booz you can probly relax maybe.......
This is one of those questions that you'll probably get answers that land on both sides of the fence.
On my end, I've dated bi-women before, and the only real truth I've ever discovered is that either a person will cheat or they won't. Doesn't matter what the circumstances are or their sexual orientation. Either they will or they won't. I don't subscribe to the idea of not hanging out with the sex you are attracted to in a relationship because I find it extremely limiting. I have many female friends, most of whom I've never slept with or been intimate with. The few that I have been intimate with are exes. On top of that, I've never cheated on anyone that I've been with, or been tempted to. I'm not judging you on this at all, or anyone else that shares your mindset, but for me the idea of limiting yourself to only hanging out with the sex you aren't attracted to is a little childish, but that is just how I feel about it. Others who have had a rash of relationships where their partner cheated on them have very good personal reasons for their beliefs.
However, like religion, I don't feel a person's individual belief should be forced on someone else.
If you truly trust your wife then don't limit her. I've had GFs that have tried to limit me like this and puts a tremendous strain on both the relationship and the friendship. This will be one more thing for you to work out with your wife, so talk with her openly about it so that she understands how you feel and do your best to understand how she feels. We all still need a couple really good friends outside of our relationships.
Once again, none of this is judging you, just my personal beliefs and experiences. The stronger the trust and communication between you and your wife, the better the relationship will be.
I don't think there's a logical difference.
I think people should be able to have friends outside of marriage, though. And women do hang out with each other, so it might be hard to never hang out with your female friends if you're bi. It all depends what you mean by hanging out.
I think the more important issue is why you're feeling jealous. You need to talk to your wife about your feelings and what you're worried about.
