I agree that love is not necessary but sex is most necessary ! Otherwise in about 100 years humanity becomes extinct ! It is programed into us to have sex to propagate the species.

Awwww... so sweet. I can't imagine why in the world you'd have trouble finding love, with your sparkly outlook and sunny disposition.

It's frightening there exists such a cold, stark vision of humanity that doesn't allow for breathtaking art, sinfully delicious foods, or enjoying the quiet magic of a spectacular sunset. We love because it's beautiful. If you can't appreciate beauty, you must just accept that almost all the rest of humanity does.

Sure, we don't need sex and love. We can fill our lives with plenty of other meaning ful things that don't spread disease and break hearts. Biology sees things differently. The human body has developed a system to perpetuate the species. Oxytocin is released and gives you that great googoo feeling when you're with someone. Not surprisingly, this hormone is raging by the time you give birth (your body's way of forcing you to love your child), and also when you are with someone who you have the potential to have sex with (to create a bond between the two adults in order to create the best situation for raising a human baby). Love is universal in that loving a child is the same as loving your mom or your spouse. The love is shown in different ways, but it is NECESSARY to sustain the life of infants (Read about Rene Spitz or Roman emporer Frederick II), and the tennants of love are required for any close adult relationship.

As far as sex is concerned, it has it's biological reason which again is to keep the species alive, however, sex is also a large part of keeping the bond close between adults. It really is the most fun two people can have together, and humans like fun.

Outside of the biology mumbo-jumbo, people like to feel alive and larger than the sum of their parts. Sex and love allow us to give ourselves to each other in a way that is impossible otherwise. Of course we hurt each other in the process, and people have died at the hands of others because of it, but the exhilarating feeling that you get in the process is unlike any other that you can have. Some people never find romantic love and some people never have sex, but for the bulk of us, we feel validated when someone loves us and we feel a particular intimacy when having sex and there is really no other way to replicate that. I'm in the middle of asking these questions myself, and I'm glad I read your question and these other answers because I feel that even though right now my heart is searing with pain and I'm lonely enough to create an imaginary friend, the trouble is worth it. I hurt, but I feel alive, and someday I will rejoin the masses of people in search of love and maybe I'll find another worth my heart and loins.

All of the whys in your question can be hard to answer because much of what you said is correct. Humans do not need love or sex to literally live. However there are many evolutionary factors that have studied that explain why we crave and desire both. To some extent.

Many people live without either. Some of them quite happily, so if you do not crave love or sex, then it is fair for you to live without them. You might be able to live a very full life without these things.

However, sexual desire and needs are the basis, some say, for most human actions. Romantic love, some say, is also a relatively new phenomenon among humans, in the last few hundred years. But we can't really know if this is true.

The main answer I can give is the humans, as a species, and for the most part live in societies and crave connection to other humans. It is why we instinctually make friends, seek love and find worth in our social lives. This is also passed on through families and how we are raised by our parents and siblings. We often try to re-create this unit in our lives. First with friends, then with our own family.

Sex and love might not make sense but humans seem to enjoy inflicting pain on themselves and one another, so I'm not surprised it occurs. It makes us feel like we really are living.

Well, it really depends on how you define living "life itself."

Sex, at its most basic function, is to keep the human race going, and many will argue that love is an instinctive means of keeping us all in the mood to breed.

Yet, its so much more than that. The act of loving someone else and, as an extension to that, becoming sexual with someone else, is part of our total development as a person. Is it neccessary to have sex with someone to become totally developed? I think it can be done without sex, but learning how to love someone else is still needed. We learn so much, change and grow so much, through experiences, through making mistakes, picking ourselves up off the ground and swatting off the dust, and moving forward either learning from those mistakes and making new ones or continuing to make the same mistakes over and over. No one learned how to read or write or solve any math problems without making a few (or alot of) mistakes at first.

Love and the need to express it in some way is a very strong driving force that moves us through our lives. As you've stated, the affect that it can have on some people can be negative, but it can also be a positive. The same can be said of many things in life. Why we throw ourselves into the fray so haphazardly can be anybody's guess. That is to say that we all have our own reasons for doing it.

Love enriches my life. I've been brought low buy it and learned what real strength is by bringing myself back up from it. I've been raised up on high by it, learning great compassion and understanding from being in a place that is so warm and giving. Love and sex are powerful muses, inspiring in all of us a creative talent to express these feelings of ultimate highs and despairing lows.

We choose how we approach learning about love and sex. We are taught by parents and friends and the people around us before we go out and get our own experiences. While many people will go through the same trials, joys, and tribulations regarding love it is always a unique experience that is up to the inidividual to determine its path. For some, love and sex is full of bitter regret, confusion, loss, depression, and grief. Others know great happiness, joy, fulfillment, adulation, compassion, and a deep sense of warmth that provides the strength to weather any storm. Some skate through the middle, never taking enough of a chance to fly high to sink low. And still others ride through all levels, travel to both extremes, never losing sight of what they want, but never learning from the mistakes of the past.

I've been brought low and found myself in the process. I've been brought up high and found great joy and peace. I've skated down the middle and morned the loss of great possibilities and breathed a sigh of relief at escaping great misfortunes. I know my heart, talk with it and listen to it as often as possible. I know my mind, hearing what it has to say and understanding when its allowing fear to take control. I know how to be happy on my own, but I know great joy when I'm with someone worthy of my devotion and who finds me worthy of theirs.

But I didn't get this way just sitting on the fence.